Dating can be a daunting experience with so much pressure and scrutiny, making it feel like a chore instead of an enjoyable activity. Insecurities often hold us back, leading to negative dating experiences that may put us off dating altogether. But the truth is, most people feel scared when going on a first date. It's important to recognize and overcome these insecurities to have a positive dating experience. Here are ten common dating insecurities and ways to overcome them:
1. What If I Seem Boring?
Don't let the idea of not being adventurous enough hold you back from being yourself on a date. Share your interests, ask questions, and let your personality shine through. If your date finds you boring, it's their loss.
2. What If I Have Nothing To Talk About?
Do you have a group of friends you regularly converse with? Have they ever mentioned you're bad at conversations? If not, then chances are you're not a bad conversationalist on your dates either. Just avoid the mundane topic of weather and talk about things that interest you. Remember, being yourself and having genuine conversations is key to a successful date.
3. Does My Outfit Look Okay?
Choosing the perfect date outfit can be challenging. You want to look great but not overdo it, show off your best features without revealing your flaws, and showcase your personality without being too assertive. However, it's important to remember that your date is likely feeling the same way.
4. What If He Wants To Have Sex?
It's common to have reservations about sex, and that's perfectly okay. When you're dating, it can be nerve-wracking if you think your date expects more. However, it's important to remember that "no" means "no." If you're not comfortable, it's perfectly fine to end the date then and there. It's also a good idea to have a friend on standby who you can quickly text and ask to call you with an excuse to leave. Remember, you never owe anyone anything after a date.
5. When Should I Text Him?
Texting a guy after your first date can come with a lot of unwritten rules, but do you have to follow them? Absolutely not. There's no need to wait for him to text you first or to play hard-to-get if you want to reach out. If you enjoyed your date and want to talk to him, go ahead and text him. But if you didn't feel a connection, don't feel obligated to keep in touch. Remember, you have the power to delete his number and move on.
6. Literally EVERYTHING About Kissing
It's common to have lots of thoughts and questions about kissing on a first date. What if you're a bad kisser? Where should you put your hands? What if your date doesn't kiss you? These thoughts are perfectly normal. And guess what? Your date is probably having the same thoughts. The best advice is to follow your instincts and only do what feels right to you. If you're not comfortable kissing him, then avoid it.
7. What If
Misreading social signals can happen to anyone, and it's important to not be afraid to ask for clarification if you're unsure about where things are going. Communication is key to a great date, so don't hesitate to work on it!
8. What If I'm Not My Date's Type?
Perhaps he is not the one for you, or maybe he is. It may sound crazy, but he could be your type and you could be his. It's impossible to know for sure without taking a chance. Remember, sometimes you win and sometimes you lose.
9. What If I Do Something Silly And Embarrass Myself?
Assuming you'll do something silly on a date can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Avoid this kind of thinking and give yourself a reality check when you start to imagine worst-case scenarios.
10. How Much Should I Drink And/Or Eat?
Stay hydrated by drinking enough water, and if you choose to drink alcohol, do so in moderation to stay alert and have fun. Eat until you're comfortably full and most importantly, make sure you're comfortable and enjoy yourself!
