I'm Done Dating Boys — I Need A Real Man

As you grow out of high school and college, you may find yourself seeking a more mature, adult relationship. The idea of building something genuine for the future with someone who has their life together becomes more alluring. For me, I'm done with dating boys who lack direction or ambition. I'm determined to find a real man who knows what he wants and won't settle for anything less.

1. It's Time For Me To Date A Grown Up

It may seem like a no-brainer, but it's not always easy to find someone who fits the bill. At this stage of my life, I'm looking for maturity, not games. I'm tired of being with players, manipulators, liars, and cheaters who don't know how to treat their partners right. I need someone who's grown, who knows better, and who is truly invested in creating something meaningful.


2. I Can't Depend On Boys

Real men are the ones you can rely on. They're not just boys playing at being men. Boys are undependable, but real men are always there when they say they will be. As an independent woman, I know I can take care of myself. But when life gets tough, it's reassuring to have someone on your team who can weather the storm with you.

3. I Need To Be With Someone I Can Trust

Men differentiate themselves from boys by being truthful and honest, regardless of the outcome. Trust is a vital component of a strong relationship, but it takes time to build. Men know how to gain trust and maintain it, understanding that once it's broken, it's challenging to regain, which is why they treasure it more than boys do.


4. I'm Ready To Settle Down

I'm not asking for the next man to propose, get married, and start a family immediately. I'm tired of aimless dating and ready for a long-lasting relationship. I'm searching for a guy who wants the same thing. Boys think about the present, while men make plans for the future. I desire a man with whom I can envision a future together.


5. I Want A Healthy Relationship

An immature man-child will never fulfill that desire. I'm exhausted by boys who make me feel terrible about myself. Fighting and verbal abuse leave me in pieces. I yearn for a man who is concerned about our relationship and my mental and physical well-being. Is it too much to ask for? I don't believe so.

6. I'm Sick Of Playing Games

It's exhausting when guys are all over you one minute and then act like they don't know you the next. I'm not interested in playing games and I'm not in high school anymore. I don't want any drama in my life, except for what I see on Grey's Anatomy. If a guy is interested in me, he should just be honest about it and act like it. It's not that complicated.


7. I Don't Want To Have To Wonder How He Feels

I'm tired of guys not being able to express themselves properly. It's not my job to read their minds and figure out how they feel. I want to be with someone who is confident in their feelings for me and can communicate it. I'm done with guys giving me mixed signals and making me question their love. All I want is to feel safe and secure in a relationship.


8. I'm Done With Casual — I Want Serious

I'm looking for a serious relationship and I need someone who is committed. Guys don't seem to understand the concept of commitment. They're either scared or not ready for it (whatever that means), or they pretend they want it and then back out when things get real. Real men want love just as much as women do. The only thing they're afraid of is getting hurt, and that's a fear I share as well.


9. Boys Run When Times Get Tough

Women need a man who can weather the storms of life. A true gentleman will stand by her side no matter what. Every relationship has its ups and downs; that's just the way it is. A mature man understands that the good times are worth fighting for, even if it means weathering a few storms. Boys, on the other hand, are quick to run at the first sign of trouble.


10. I Want Someone Who Will Actually Make An Effort

Boys might think they can coast through life without a care, but that kind of relationship won't cut it for me. Real men know that winning a woman's heart takes work - and they're willing to put in the effort day in and day out. Boys won't make that kind of effort, but a true man will recognize that I'm worth it.