Although it can be tempting to go back to an ex who idealizes you as "the one who got away," believing that he will love you more now that he realizes your true worth, it's actually better for you to continue on your own.
1. You Can't Go Back
After breaking away from him, life went on, and surprisingly, his world may have stopped, but yours did not. You met new people, developed new relationships, and built a life for yourself. You've grown into a different person since the last time you knew him. Since there's no way to turn back time, there's no point in dwelling on the past for his sake.
2. Keep The Past In The Past
Continuously dwelling on the past can hinder your ability to progress. Avoid revisiting past relationships as a means to find love. Broaden your dating options by considering men outside of your dating history. Many good men exist outside of your past experiences and could have a promising future with you. However, being open to these opportunities requires shifting your focus away from the past and towards the present.
3. There Was A Reason Things Didn't Work Out
It's important to acknowledge that despite any lingering emotions, there were valid reasons why the relationship ended. Separating from someone does not eliminate the underlying issues that led to the breakup. The challenges that were present during the relationship will persist, and time has merely caused them to fade from memory, rather than erasing them entirely.
4. You're Not "the One"
It's crucial to understand the distinction between being the one who got away and the one who is truly meant to be with someone. The one who got away refers to someone with whom there were romantic feelings, but the relationship didn't work out. On the other hand, "the one" denotes the person with whom you are meant to spend your life. Pursuing a relationship with someone who regards you as the one who got away is not a romantic notion. Instead, it signifies settling for someone who is not your true soulmate, which can ultimately lead to a tragic outcome.
5. Just Because You Still Have Feelings For Him Doesn't Mean They're Right
A breakup doesn't always signify the absence of feelings. Rather, it suggests the recognition that the relationship was not beneficial for either party. You may not have inspired the best in each other, and the relationship may have caused more pain than joy. Even though love may exist in an unhealthy relationship, it is not adequate to overcome fundamental differences. Consequently, returning to someone who was not right for you based solely on love is not justifiable.
6. If It Were Meant To Be, Things Would Have Worked Out
There is a commonly held belief that true love can conquer all, so why couldn't your love have done so? If the two of you were truly destined to be together, then the relationship would not have ended. However, there was a reason for the breakup, and even if it is not clear at present, it may become apparent in the future.
7. The Fact That He Still Wants You Shouldn't Sway Your Decision
Undeniably, it's gratifying to experience the sensation of being desired. Nevertheless, the mere fact that he misses you should not be the sole basis for reciprocating his feelings. If he did not demonstrate interest in you, would your emotions remain the same? It's essential to exclude his sentiments from the equation and evaluate your feelings objectively. By doing so, you can truly determine how you feel.
8. You Can't Blame Everything On Bad Timing
Occasionally, relationships don't succeed because they weren't meant to be. It wasn't a matter of the right person at the wrong time; instead, it was simply the wrong person, and this would have been the case at any stage of your life. Consequently, it is vital to stop using timing as an explanation and acknowledge that even if feelings exist, it does not imply that the two of you are compatible.
9. If He Let You Go Once, He's Bound To Do It Again
If someone let you slip through their grasp once, there is no assurance that they will be more attentive the next time. It is possible for a person to watch you leave once and do it again. Therefore, you deserve a man who is willing to fight for you, not one who is willing to let you go. He had his opportunity, and if given another chance, he would probably squander it again.
10. If He Really Loved You, He'd Set You Free
"The one that got away" is just another mistake that could prevent you from finding Mr. Right. If he genuinely cared for you, he would prioritize your happiness, even if it meant you couldn't be together.