If Your Husband Can’t Accept Your Body, Throw The Whole Husband Out Says Lindsay Wolf

Lindsay says this concerning a fabulous body: it is “a body that’s attached to a human being.”

As far as getting naked on Instagram goes, she doesn’t deny it: she is a repeat offender. Her defense? “when you have a body as fabulous as mine is, you own that shit.”

Lindsay Has Not Always Been So Confident About Her Body.

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Imagine what kind of a world we’d have if we all became our own best friends. Self-love is really as simple as taking the step to challenge the outside forces that have been working to diminish your inherent worth & lovability. We aren’t born hating ourselves. We are conditioned into it. Which means it can all be undone. WE can choose, at any given moment, what we want to believe about ourselves, how we want to think about & talk to ourselves, and how we want to treat our bodies. I can easily say that every step I’ve taken towards bodily acceptance these past two years has resulted in the realization that I really can heal any part of me that feels broken. Of course, the ongoing efforts of going to therapy & being open to medication have personally helped me get there – and this may not be the path for everybody. But every one of us deserves the opportunity to love ourselves at some point during this lifetime. So many of us are taught as children that to be loved, we must do or be something outside of our natural self. And so the undoing process as an adult requires our willingness to unearth who that natural self IS. For me, stepping off of the diet culture roller coaster, owning my complex PTSD diagnosis, and learning how to let go of perfectionism & people pleasing tendencies has freed up space to dig deeper and get to know the me that exists when societal pressures are stripped away. And as scary as it can be to blindly trust a new way of existing, it has been so worth it to take the leap. 🦋 . . . #youareworthy #selflove #bodyacceptance #allbodiesaregoodbodies #effyourbeautystandards #innerworth #plussize #EDrecovery #motherhood #fatisnotaviolation #reparentingyourself #mentalhealthawareness #stretchmarks #postpartumbody #youareenough #healthateverysize #shameresilience #traumarecovery #mombod

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When she looked at herself in the mirror two years ago, she was not happy with her mom bod. She even admits feeling “vulnerable as f**k.”

Before then, she had spent about two decades of her life dealing with an eating disorder. She also hated her body and herself.

After getting two kids, she put on 75 pounds, and that’s pretty much the story for every mom out there.

She did not stay like she did for lack of trying. She went to a lot of lengths to change her body, and it didn’t work. 

Lindsay Felt Betrayed By Her Own Body, And That Really Frustrated And Angered Her.

That’s when she realized she had one option left: to accept her amazing body as it was. She freed her mind from the negative thoughts she had about her body.

That changed everything.

She turned into a happy and proud woman. She is not even afraid to call herself a fat mama, and she promotes her body on Instagram in a mission to help women going through similar struggles learn to accept themselves.

But this is quite a drastic decision, right? People rarely put their naked bodies on social media because they have learned to accept themselves.

Lindsay is no different either. She says her husband is to blame for her “shenanigans” and is the reason you can see her “big ass” on Instagram.

Because Of Matt, Her Husband, Lindsay Gave Up The Attempt To Lose Weight.

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This guy & I have been away from each other for over a month. The reason why is as heartbreaking as it is life-affirming. We made a tough decision back in April after struggling for the first few months of the year. We decided to pack me & the kids up to fly to the East Coast to stay with my family, so I could get extra support for the increasingly overwhelming task of caring full-time for two kids under the age of four, while also working tirelessly to heal from an unexpected PTSD diagnosis. It’ll be another six weeks before my husband & I are reunited again, and then we’re embarking on a new chapter together in the hopes of creating less stress & more connection as a family unit. My therapist said something to me in one of our final in-person sessions together that was startling and surprisingly comforting. She said that when a parent enters counseling & shares that they have no extended family located closely near them, she writes it down as a substantial cause for concern. Add to that the host of recent symptoms that have accompanied my PTSD – crippling panic attacks, regular bouts of intense shame, fear & overwhelm, suicidal thoughts, and the potential reemergence of long-practiced self-harm tactics – and you have a recipe for mental health disaster. I can’t say that I’m out of the woods yet with everything – far from it – but I can say, with full certainty, that this decision to upend our tough status quo has led to feeling hope more often than not. While I currently see myself as the biggest work-in-progress I’ve ever been so far in my life, I do trust that these steps will lead to a much more empowering & encouraging rest of 2019. ❤️ If you are struggling as a parent with any kind of mental health battles, they are as worthy of a crisis status as any physical illness. Let’s start reminding ourselves that there’s a reason the saying “it takes a village” was coined. And if your village is far away & their presence hardly felt, you have every right to do whatever you can to stick your oxygen mask on first before you care for your tiny humans. 🦋 . . . #mentalhealthawareness #PTSDrecovery #childhoodtrauma #youarenotalone #selflove #counseling #innerworth

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Some years back, Matt told her he is okay with the way she looks and even finds her more attractive and loves her just as he did before.

This was brutal honesty, and quite sobering too.

Before then, when her husband would appreciatively pat her larger behind, Lindsay thought it was veiled mockery. She later realized that he loved her regardless of how she looked. She was very adorable in his eyes.

Matt has gained some weight too, and Lindsay is okay with it. Apparently, she enjoys having “more of him to love.”

Ironically, she did not feel so upbeat about her weight gain. At least not at first. She realized it was not fair for her to embrace his “extra cushion” while shunning hers.

All over the web, there are images of dad bods, and today, they get the girl in movies. While having weight comes with stigma for both men and women, women get the worst of it.

The problem is that men who are as accepting of a larger woman’s body as Matt is are rare. Few men can love their women unconditionally, despite their waist size.

What Lindsay Is Doing Is Already Having An Impact.

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Here’s what romance currently looks like in our multi-kid house. While it’s not expressed regularly in fancy dinners out, love letters, or grand gestures, it is often found sweetly in the tiniest of moments – and if I blink, I usually miss them. So here’s a recount. Romance nowadays is my husband making my first cup of coffee almost every single morning, just the way I like it. It’s sneaking in heavy petting in between the diaper changes & the temper tantrums. It’s laughing together at the end of what feels like the longest day of all time – and then doing it all over again the next day. It’s when he squeezes my arm as he passes by me in the kitchen as we follow our crazy toddler around. It’s watching him carry his newborn son with such tenderness as he sets his little body down to change a Level 10 baby poop blowout. It’s in how much he loves to cook me dinners while I’m passed the EFFF out on the couch at 9pm & the excited look on his face when he’s woken me up to eat it. It’s in every single pep talk he gives me to remind me that while this is the toughest job I’ve ever – EVER – taken on, he thinks I’m phenomenal at it. It’s the ease he has to let the house get messy without an ounce of pressure to immediately clean it up. It’s the little smirk he has on his face when I start babbling about my day to him as soon as he gets home from work. It’s how he gently holds me during the tearful moments when I don’t think I can do this mom thing any longer. It’s how much he has grown as a man & a dad & a person since the day I met him. And it’s the realization that I’d rather be in this parenting mess with him than any other human being on the planet. 😴💖 . . . #parenthood #marriage #myfamily #raisingkids #tiredparents #thisispostpartum #makingafamily

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On Instagram, mothers reach out saying although they have accepted their bodily changes, their partners have not. Some will even not have sex with their wives after they have gained weight, which, honestly, is horrifying.

Obviously, such women suffer a lot of psychological damage. Having a child causes a lot of changes to a woman’s body. That is why it is unfair to tell her she is not attractive anymore.

Body Shaming Is The Lowest Anyone Can Get.

Women’s body undergo a lot of changes. And no one’s body remains the same throughout their lives. They expand, have stretch marks, sag and look nothing like they did before.

There is more to a woman than her body, and men need to realize this. Anyone who doesn’t is shallow and inconsiderate of how far we have come as a society.

To all the women who are concerned about their body image, Lindsay has this to say: “And if you ever need any more rambunctious pep talks to help you remember how amazing you are, come find me.”

No wonder she is a hero to many.