First dates can be disheartening when they don't lead to seconds, but having a list of expectations for your date could be holding you back. Instead, consider letting go of these 12 expectations and focus on building a real connection. This way, you can have a great time and even make plans for a follow-up date.

1. That He'll Offer To Pay

Holding onto outdated ideas about who should pay on a first date can cause unnecessary tension and stress. While it's still common for guys to offer to pick up the tab, it's important to remember that it's not a requirement. Additionally, accepting his offer doesn't make you any less independent. Ultimately, what matters most is whether or not you have a connection, so don't let something like paying for the date distract you from that.

2. That You Should Only Go Certain Places

While some people say that going to a movie theater or a high-end restaurant is off-limits for a first date, there are no hard and fast rules. If you and your date are both comfortable with a particular activity or location, then go for it. For example, if you're both indie film buffs or foodies, and there's a great new movie or restaurant in town, it might be the perfect spot for your first date. The key is to find something you both enjoy and feel comfortable with.

3. That You Should Limit What You Eat

Your date knows that you're a human who eats and sometimes gets food stuck in your teeth. However, this doesn't mean that food is a dealbreaker. If your date judges you for your food choices, they aren't worth your time. The same goes for accommodating different food preferences. Stick to your own and enjoy your meal without worrying about what your date thinks.

4. That You Shouldn't Sleep With Him

Whether you decide to sleep with someone on the first date or wait until marriage, it's entirely up to you. Don't feel pressured to follow any dating rules. Sometimes things just feel right on the third date or even earlier. Do what feels comfortable and enjoyable for you without worrying about what your date might think.

5. That You Should Keep It Short

Some people suggest ending the first date early to leave both parties wanting more. However, this is unnecessary. If you both enjoy each other's company, feel free to stay out as long as you want. If you get tired of each other after a few hours, it's probably not a good match anyway. Don't limit yourself by trying to follow arbitrary dating rules.

6. That He Should Be A Perfect Gentleman

Why should you expect him to hold the door open for you? It's not better if you only anticipate traditional behavior on the first date. You should set expectations for a long-term relationship instead of putting the first date on a pedestal. Don't be naive; chivalry is a thing of the past, and that's a good thing. If you genuinely believe that holding doors open for each other is important, do it for him first.

7. That You Have To Spend A Fortune On Your Look

Sure, make a good impression, but don't obsess over your outfit to the point of driving yourself crazy. You don't need to buy something new or dress too fancy for the venue. If you're overdressed for a casual date, you'll end up feeling uncomfortable. Besides, his perception of your beauty won't depend on the newness of your outfit. Just dress to feel confident and relaxed.

8. That You Can't Touch Your Phone

Texting the whole date is rude, but you don't have to put your phone on silent. He shouldn't judge you for checking your texts to ensure that nothing important is happening. If you're concerned that you're looking at your phone too much, explain to him what's going on. Is your aunt texting you, but only in emergencies? Are you waiting to hear how your friend's job interview went? He will understand.

9. That You Need To Compliment Him

If compliments come to you naturally, don't hesitate to express them, but avoid giving them solely for the sake of etiquette. Randomly picking something to compliment can sound insincere and robotic. Instead, take the time to genuinely appreciate your date's positive qualities before expressing your admiration with sincerity.

10. That You Have To Limit Your Drinks

While you don't want to get drunk and ruin the date, ultimately, you know your body and drinking habits best. Don't feel obligated to follow any specific drink limit. Just make sure you don't end up in a risky situation.

11. That Some Topics Are Off-Limits

Don't hold back on discussing topics that matter to you just because it's a first date. Engaging in passionate conversations can make the date memorable and exciting. If you find yourself strongly disagreeing with your date on politics or religion, it might be a sign that you're not meant to be.

12. That You Need To Ask About All Of Your Dealbreakers

While it's important to learn about your date, don't turn the conversation into an interrogation. Avoid rushing through a list of questions like you're on a quiz show. Instead, enjoy talking about important topics as they naturally come up. Keep in mind that you won't be able to cover everything in one date.