Don't lose hope in finding love. Your person may be just around the corner, going through similar thoughts and challenges as you, but equally ready for a meaningful relationship. Keep the faith until you can be together.
1. There really is someone out there for everyone
There's an old saying that goes, "There's a lid for every pot." This means that there is someone out there for everyone - you may even have more than one "person" in your life. Don't worry about all the people you've met in the past who weren't right for you - your person will come along when the time is right. You don't need to worry about being alone forever.
2. Matchmaking doesn't happen on your timetable
It's understandable that you want a relationship, but you can't make something happen if it's not meant to be. Trying to force a relationship when it's not right is bound to end poorly. The timing has to be right for things to work out. The universe has its own schedule, and things and people tend to come into our lives when they're meant to, not when we demand it. It's difficult to accept, but sometimes we have to be patient and wait for the right time.
3. The universe has a plan for your love life
It's natural to try to plan and predict the future, but sometimes things don't go according to plan. You may have thought that someone was "The One," but then they ghosted you. It's important to remember that the universe has its own plan for your love life. There is someone out there who is meant to be with you. In the meantime, try not to stress too much about it. Trust that everything will work out in the end.
4. You may think that there's something wrong with you
It's common to worry about being the last of your friends to find someone, or to fear that you're unlovable because you're broken or used up. These are understandable fears, but they're not based on reality. You are not broken, and it's okay if you're still single. It's normal to wish that reality was different, but try to remember that you are doing well and that your person will come along when the time is right. You are worthy of love and you will find it.
More Things To Remember When You're Afraid Of Being Alone Forever
1. You're perfect as you are
It's understandable to feel sad or worry that there's something wrong with you if you're still single, but it's important to remember that there's nothing inherently wrong with being alone. You are perfect just as you are, and the universe wants you to have what you desire and to know that you're worth it. Just as a parent wants the best for their children, the universe wants the best for you. Don't let negative thoughts about your worth hold you back. Believe in yourself and your ability to find love.
2. Our person may be having some of the same concerns
It's hard to imagine your future partner feeling down about their dating experiences and thinking that they're worthless and will be alone forever. But remember that this is how your person is probably feeling too. Just as it hurts to think about someone you care about feeling this way, it's painful for them to think about you worrying in the same way. It's important to be kind to yourself and to trust that love will come when the time is right. Both you and your future partner are worthy of love and happiness.
3. Think about how many mismatches two people in a couple have to face before they find each other
There are many people who are with each other even though they're not a good match. This can make it difficult to find the right person, but it also makes it all the more special when you do. You will find your special person, and it will make perfect sense to you why things didn't work out with anyone else. Trust that the universe has a plan for you and that you will find the love and happiness you deserve.
4. They're waiting for you too
It's comforting to know that your person is also feeling the same way you are and hoping for a happy and fulfilling relationship. They may be hitting the pillow at night wondering when dating will stop being so difficult, and all they want is to find an amazing partner. Remember that it's normal to have to go through some challenges and meet some people who aren't right for you before you find your person. Trust that your prince or princess is just around the corner, and keep an open mind and a positive attitude.
5. It's okay if you're genuinely interested in being single forever
Some people are content with being alone and don't have a desire to find a romantic partner. That's perfectly okay. It's important to remember that you are not required to have a desire to find a person if that's not what you want. It's your life and you get to decide what makes you happy. If you do want to find a relationship, don't give up hope. Keep an open mind and be open to the possibility of love coming into your life when you least expect it.
6. Not everyone has a forever person, but maybe a person who'll be around for a while
It's worth keeping in mind that the person who is meant for you may not be in your life forever. Not everyone has a "forever person," and that's okay. However, it's important to remember that you will have someone in your future who is meant to be with you, even if it's only for a short period of time. They may make a big impact on your life and help you to believe in love again. Keep an open mind and be open to the possibility of love coming into your life in all its forms.
How To Find Peace In Being Single While You Wait For Your Person
It can be difficult to wait for love to come your way, especially if you believe it is on its way. Here are some suggestions to help you find contentment while you are single.
1. Recognize that being single is pretty normal
It can be easy to feel like you are the only one who is single, especially if you are surrounded by people who are in relationships. However, it is important to remember that many people are also single. In fact, according to statistics, nearly half of all men in the United States have never been married, and a similar percentage of women have also never married. While there may be some societal stigma surrounding being single, it is important to remember that it is a common and normal experience.
2. Understand that even if you're single forever, you're never really alone
According to Posey, many people who are single for a long time do not feel excessively lonely because they have other sources of companionship besides romantic relationships. This means that not having a romantic partner does not necessarily mean being alone. "Most of the time, people who say they're comfortable alone aren't really alone. They have friends and they have church groups. They have social groups and they have work — they have lots of relationships," she says.
3. Know that you don't have to live by society's rules
It is completely normal to want a romantic relationship, as the desire for companionship is a natural human tendency. However, it is important to ensure that pursuing a relationship is something that you truly want, rather than feeling pressured to do so because it seems like what everyone else is doing.
4. Focus on the positives
There are many benefits to being single, in addition to the benefits of being in a relationship. Some of these benefits include having more time to form close friendships, having better overall health, and potentially even having more and better sexual experiences. These benefits are supported by scientific research. Being single allows you to focus on your own personal growth and well-being without the added responsibilities that come with a romantic relationship. So why not take advantage of these benefits while you can?
5. Cultivate self-love
It is important to not only focus on the love you have to give to a romantic partner, but also on the love you have for yourself. As RuPaul says, "If you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?" That is indeed correct. Posey reiterates this point. "If we don't love ourselves, how can we receive love from others? Developing a stronger self-esteem can help us be ready for a relationship or be more content with being single. Both are positive outcomes."
Things To Focus Your Energy On While You're Single
Although it is unlikely that you will be alone forever, being single at this time presents you with the chance to accomplish great things.
1. Work on yourself
There is always room for self-improvement, even while you are alive and breathing. As Shunryu Suzuki, a renowned Buddhist teacher, once stated, "Each of you is perfect the way you are … and you can use a little improvement." Have you considered seeking the help of a therapist to address unresolved issues from your childhood? Or perhaps joining a 12-step program to address a habit that is impacting your life negatively? Even self-help books or honest self-reflection can be a good place to start. Taking time alone to reflect and work on becoming a better person can be very beneficial.
2. Travel solo
Have you always wanted to travel to Southeast Asia, explore beautiful islands, indulge in delicious street food, and visit sacred temples? Now is the perfect opportunity to make that dream a reality. Instead of spending money on expensive dates or a lavish wedding, save those funds and treat yourself to a solo trip to a place like Bali that you've always wanted to visit. Trust me, you'll regret not taking the chance. If you're not able to splurge on a big trip at the moment, try acting like a tourist in your own town. Go see the popular attractions and try out the local cuisine that makes your area unique.
3. Further your education
There are many ways to further your education, such as earning a degree or taking classes at a local education center. Attending night classes can be a great way to fill the time that you might have otherwise spent with a romantic partner. And if you're passionate about the subject matter, it can be just as fulfilling. Don't worry if traditional academic subjects aren't your thing - the options are endless. You don't have to let financial constraints hold you back either. There are plenty of low-cost options available, such as taking a sewing class at your local library or community center.
4. Have an affair with your creative pursuits
Are you suppressing a creative passion that you've always wanted to explore? In her book Big Magic, Elizabeth Gilbert encourages readers to embrace their creativity like a long-lost lover. Make time for your craft, even if it's just for 15 minutes a day. Find a quiet corner at work to write poetry, or be a few minutes late to a meeting because you're savoring a delicious meal you just cooked. Don't be afraid to fully engage with your creative pursuits and let them consume you in a positive way.
Or, You Could…
1. Get to know your own body
According to Statisticbrain.com, 89% of women admit to masturbating, with the percentage dropping to 70% for married women. It's possible that some of these women are having enjoyable sex with their partners, but research indicates that 75% of women do not orgasm from intercourse alone. This means that many women, even those who are sexually active, may not be having orgasms. Taking time for self-exploration and learning how to achieve powerful orgasms can be a valuable and enjoyable use of time alone.
2. Grow your spirituality
Although a majority of millennials do not consider themselves to be religious, many do consider themselves to be spiritual. According to a Religious Landscape Study conducted by the Pew Research Center, "51% [of millennials] say they feel a deep sense of spiritual peace and well-being at least once a week." For some, spiritual peace and well-being may come from activities such as yoga, meditation, prayer, or participation in a spiritual community. For others, it may be found in spending time with like-minded individuals, such as at a coven gathering. Whatever spirituality means to you, being alone can provide an excellent opportunity to cultivate and enhance your connection with the divine or the universe.
3. Help others
If you're struggling to feel connected and engaged with the world around you, one effective solution is to reach out and help others. By offering a helping hand to those in need, you can feel a sense of purpose and belonging with your fellow human beings. As Gandhi pointed out, "The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others." There may be times when being single feels difficult or frustrating. On those days, try finding ways to help others as a way to lift your own spirits. You could volunteer your time and energy, reach out to a friend who is going through a tough time, or offer a little extra support to someone in need. By focusing on the needs of others, you may discover the joy and fulfillment that comes from being human and making a positive impact on the world around you.
4. Be weird and wild
Consider doing something unconventional and out of the ordinary, like getting a unique tattoo, having your tarot cards read, or trying out a sensory deprivation tank. Life is short, and when you're single, you have the freedom to do whatever you want without worrying about what a partner might think. This is your life, so make the most of it and do things that bring you joy and excitement.
