Breaking up without any closure can be incredibly difficult. Whether it's due to a heated argument that leads to getting blocked, or simply being ghosted for no apparent reason, it can leave you with countless unanswered questions. However, it may be best to resist the urge to seek answers and just let things be.
1. As a reminder, you don't want him back
If he left you hanging once, he's likely to do it again. Men who behave like this are not concerned about your emotional state, as evidenced by their refusal to communicate with you. The more you pursue him, the more his ego will be boosted.
2. You also don't want to sleep with him one last time
Having a final sexual encounter with an ex is a terrible idea. It can intensify your feelings towards them, and if unprotected, it could result in an unplanned pregnancy. Is it worth the risk of being tied to this person for at least 18 years? It's not only manipulative, but also a recipe for long-term disappointment.
3. He's never going to see you as "the one that got away"
It's a common fantasy among girls that a guy will one day wake up and realize what he's lost, but unfortunately, that's not always the case. If he does try to come back and ask you out again, it may just be because he enjoys the fact that you'll always say yes to him. He likely has a group of girls he's playing games with.
4. In fact, he may see you as being desperate
If you're unable to move on and accept the fact that he's no longer interested, he may become irritated by your constant texts and calls. Why continue to waste your time on someone who's not right for you? Instead, focus your energy on finding someone who is truly compatible with you.
5. You're not going to be the one to change his personality
Perhaps he was upfront with you from the beginning, stating that he's a womanizer, but you thought you could be the only one to change him. When someone reveals their true nature, it's important to believe them. This man was truthful from the start and is likely already involved with someone else.
6. He's probably not going to be honest with you
Continuing to pester him for an explanation on why he ended the relationship will likely result in a generic response like, "It's not you, it's me." If he chose to ghost you, he's likely avoiding the drama that comes with a proper breakup.
7. You may be comfortable with him, but you deserve better
People often return to their ex-partners because they feel at ease with the relationship's dynamics. However, staying with someone simply because of familiarity may cause discomfort when being single. It's important to remember that there are many other individuals out there who are willing to commit and build a long-lasting connection with you.
8. When the urge strikes, just remember why you broke up in the first place
If you're left in the dark without any explanation for his sudden disappearance, it's one thing. However, if you're dealing with a toxic person, it's important to acknowledge the negative aspects of the relationship. If this man genuinely cared for you, he would take the initiative to make amends and put in effort to pursue you. However, his lack of pursuit indicates otherwise.
9. Don't be envious of his new girlfriend
Comparing yourself to your ex's new girlfriend by telling yourself that you're "so much prettier" is a detrimental attitude. Remember, it's not a competition, and the fact that your ex moved on suggests that you two were not meant to be together for some reason. Even if he turns out to be a poor partner for her as well, it's no longer your concern. Focus on your own well-being and moving forward.
10. Blocking his number is the best thing you can do for your well-being
Even if you make a promise not to contact your ex, alcohol can make you forget and act impulsively. Don't risk appearing petty by reaching out to him. You'll regret any drunk call or text, especially if you can't even recall the conversation. Block his number and delete any text messages, and consider removing him from social media as well to resist temptation.
