In modern dating, texting often becomes the primary mode of communication with a new guy, particularly during the initial stages. While it can be exciting to receive frequent messages from someone you're interested in, it can also be disappointing when you're left waiting for a post-first date text that never arrives. The reality is straightforward: if a guy isn't texting you, it's a clear indication that he's not interested in you.
1. Every Guy That You've Dated Has Texted First
If you reflect on your past text messages, you'll come to the realization that this is an undeniable fact. Your ex-boyfriends would contact you to arrange meetups or simply to say hello. Even those who were almost boyfriends were frequent texters and regularly inquired about your activities.
2. It Proves That He's Not Thinking About You
It's a straightforward equation: when a guy is into you, he'll think about you and text you accordingly. If this isn't happening, then it's a sign that you're not on his mind. Don't take it personally, as it's more about him than you. After all, not everyone you date is going to be a perfect match, just as you don't find every guy appealing.
3. He Should Come Up With Random Reasons To Get In Touch
Have you noticed that he ordered pizza for lunch, or maybe had one too many coffees before a crucial work meeting, resulting in jitters and shakiness? Is he trying to make you laugh? When a guy is interested in you, he'll find all sorts of random reasons to text you. You should be receiving these messages, and they should bring a smile to your face because they're a clear indication of his interest in you.
4. He Doesn't Want To Move Things Forward
When a guy is interested in you, he'll make it clear and ensure that you know it. He wouldn't want to risk losing you to someone else or fade out of your mind. You want him to be unable to stop thinking about you, and that's what you should be looking for. Why would he sit back and wait for you to take the lead? It wouldn't make any sense.
5. You Can't Be The One Doing All The Work
Do you truly desire to be the sole person putting effort into a new relationship? Do you want to initiate every conversation, whether it's a simple "hi" after days of silence or an invitation to go out again? Most likely, you don't.
6. You Don't Want To Like Someone More Than They Like You
You've likely found yourself in this unpleasant scenario before, and you understand how unpleasant it can be. You spend all day every day doubting yourself, questioning whether you may have said or done something wrong. That's not a healthy way to live. You deserve someone who reciprocates your level of interest and affection.
7. He's Not The Only Guy In The World
When you're single and not in a relationship, it can be tempting to continue seeing someone just because it took a while to meet someone decent. You may think that even though everything isn't perfect and he's not texting you, you like him enough to stay. However, you need to put a stop to this way of thinking. He's not the only guy out there, and you deserve to wait for someone who will consistently keep in touch with you.
8. He's Afraid To Tell You The Truth
You might assume that if this guy wasn't interested in you, he would tell you directly, so you continue to text him. However, that's not always the case. He could be hesitant to inform you that he doesn't see you romantically. While it would be best for him to be honest and straightforward, he may lack the maturity to do so.
9. This Isn't Going To End Well
You cannot compel someone to develop feelings for you or even find you appealing. If this were possible, life would be much easier, and you would likely be married by now. However, if he's not texting you, this situation is not likely to end well. You could pressure him to admit that nothing will happen between you two, which would be painful to hear, or you could text him so frequently that he becomes annoyed and unkind. These are not desirable outcomes.
10. There Are No Excuses
No matter how many stories you tell yourself, they won't turn into reality. He's not ignoring you because he likes you too much, he's not too busy or a hard worker, and he doesn't hate texting. If he likes you, he will make it known by incessantly texting you. End of story.