It can be frustrating when you see that a guy is texting you back, only to have the message remain "in progress" for a long time before disappearing. If a guy is not texting you back, it's best to just leave things be and not take any action. Trying to chase after him or push for a response will likely only make things worse. Here are a few other things to consider in a situation like this:
1. He Might Just Be Busy
A good rule of thumb is to go with the most logical explanation first. If you were having a great conversation with your friend via text and they suddenly stopped responding, it's likely that they got busy with something else. It's not uncommon for people to forget to let others know when they will be unavailable for a while. Just give them some time and space and chances are you'll be able to pick up the conversation again soon.
2. Texting Him Incessantly Will Not Make You Look Good
Sending multiple texts in quick succession is not an effective way to get a guy's attention, and it's certainly not going to make him more interested in you. It's understandable that you may be frustrated if you feel like you want to reach out but know you shouldn't, but the best course of action is to resist the urge to send multiple texts. It's a good rule to follow in any situation.
3. Consider What You Would Think If The Situation Was Reversed
If someone doesn't respond to your message and you continue to text them repeatedly without a good reason, it's likely that they will see you as clingy and lose interest. Most people don't appreciate being bombarded with multiple texts from someone they are not particularly interested in. Unless the person you are texting is looking for someone who is high maintenance, they are likely to have a negative reaction to your behavior.
4. Another Text Isn't Going To Miraculously Make Him Want You, No Matter What You Say
Even if you think you have the perfect message that will convince someone to continue communicating with you, if they have already decided to stop responding, it is unlikely to change their mind. Sending more messages may come across as desperate and could potentially damage your pride. It's best to accept that he is no longer interested and move on.
5. The Ball Is Already In His Court
In a normal conversation, both parties take turns responding to each other. If you have already responded to the last message you received, it is now the other person's turn to reply. However, it's important to remember that there can always be exceptions to this rule. It's possible that the person you are texting is taking a little longer to respond because they are thinking of the perfect response. It's always a good idea to give them a bit of time before sending another message.
6. Even If You Have Nothing Better To Do Than Wait For His Text, You Don't Want Him To Know That
If you send another text after not receiving a response, it may make it obvious that you are wondering where he has been. It can be more effective to wait for him to initiate the next conversation. This allows him to do a little bit of chasing and can make you appear to be busy and not overly concerned about the lack of communication. It's important to strike a balance and not appear too eager or indifferent.
7. That Being Said, You Should Have Something Better To Do
A good way to distract yourself from the fact that it's been a while since the person you are texting last contacted you is to have other things going on in your life. This could include spending time with friends, pursuing hobbies and interests, or engaging in other activities that keep you busy and distracted. Having a fulfilling life outside of your relationship can help you feel more confident and less anxious. If you don't have many outside interests or activities, it may be a good idea to work on developing some before looking for a romantic partner.
8. Text Fades Happen To Everyone
It's quite common to stop receiving responses from someone you're texting. If this happens to you, you shouldn't feel it is your fault. Ghosting, or suddenly ending communication without an explanation, is a common occurrence and many people have experienced it. It's important not to blame yourself for the other person's behavior. However, if you continue to text them without a good reason, you may want to consider if your actions are appropriate. It's always a good idea to be self-aware and consider how your actions may be perceived by others.
9. If He's Really Interested, He'll Text You
When you are pursuing someone and they are responding to your messages, but their responses are passive or lack enthusiasm, it may be a sign that they are not very interested in you. If someone is truly interested in pursuing a relationship with you, they will typically make an effort to communicate with you and ask you out on a date. If he is not interested, he may not make an effort to keep the conversation going or may not respond to your messages at all. It's important to pay attention to the level of effort the other person is putting in and to be honest with yourself about whether it is a good match.
10. You Shouldn't Have So Much Invested In A Text Conversation
It's natural to get excited when you have the opportunity to interact with someone you are interested in, but it's important to remember that texting is not the same as being in person. Many people, not just guys, may not be skilled at texting or may only use it for practical purposes. It may not be a good idea to make judgments about someone based solely on their texting habits. Try to reserve your excitement for when you can spend time with them in person and get a better sense of who they are.
11. What's Your Relationship Like In Person?
In cases when you are unsure of someone's level of interest in you because they are not very responsive texters, it can be helpful to take a step back and consider the bigger picture. How do they act when you are together in person? Do they seem engaged and interested in you? Do they enjoy spending time with you and seem to have a good time? If the answer to these questions is yes, it's possible that he simply does not enjoy texting or may not be very good at it. It's important to consider all aspects of the relationship, rather than focusing on one aspect, such as texting habits.
He's Not Texting You Back — Does That Mean He's Not Interested?
There are many reasons that someone may not respond to your message, and it is not always about you. The person may be busy, their phone battery may have died, or they may be engaged in activities that do not involve looking at their phone. It's important to remember that not receiving a response does not necessarily mean that he is not interested in you or that something is wrong.
That Being Said…
It's possible that he may not be responding to your messages because he is talking to other women or because he is no longer interested in you. However, it's important to remember that this is not necessarily the case and it's not productive to jump to conclusions without more information. If you are concerned about his lack of communication, it's a good idea to look for other signs that this may be the case, rather than immediately assuming the worst.
How To Deal When He's Not Texting You Back
If his lack of communication through text is a frequent issue and causing you frustration, here are some ways to handle it:
1. Talk To Him About It
You should let him know if you value texting as a form of communication. He may not realize that it's important to you. By expressing your feelings, you can open up the opportunity for clear communication and potentially find a compromise that works for both of you.
2. Use Texting Strategically
If you're frustrated by your partner's lack of responsiveness to your texts, consider changing how you use it as a communication medium. Instead of using texting for casual conversation, use it to make plans to spend time together or confirm existing plans. Reserve in-depth conversations for when you're in person.
3. Lessen Its Importance
Try changing your perspective on texting in your relationship. While it's okay to prefer a partner who enjoys texting as a form of communication, it's important to recognize that it's not a significant factor in the overall success of a relationship. Understanding this can help you reduce stress and not become too concerned when your partner doesn't respond in the way you want.
4. Find A Distraction
There are plenty of other things you can do with your time when it seems like he is not responding to your texts. Don't fixate on your phone, instead, try going to the gym, working, spending time with friends, calling your family, or engaging in hobbies like going to the farmer's market or baking. There are countless ways to occupy your time and attention.
5. Shift Things To In Person
Reduce your reliance on texting by spending more time together in person. This will help you communicate more effectively and also show you that texting isn't as important as you may think. Instead of stressing about texts, focus on enjoying each other's company.
