It's common to see women staying in a relationship with a guy who treats them poorly. This could be because he belittles their career or always chooses his friends over them. These actions show that he doesn't value or prioritize the woman in the relationship. It's important to recognize when someone is not treating you with respect and to not be afraid to take action. Here are 10 things you can do to show that you don't need someone who doesn't respect you:
1. Stop answering his late-night booty calls
Instead of constantly waiting for your partner to contact you, only make yourself available during normal business hours. If they aren't reaching out to you during the week, it may not be a healthy or worthwhile relationship. Consider taking extra steps, such as getting a personal secretary, to communicate that your weekends and evenings are valuable and should not be taken for granted. Remember, you deserve to be with someone who values you and respects your time.
2. Fill up your social calendar with literally anything and everything
One way to show someone that you don't have time for them is to keep yourself busy with various activities. This can help communicate that you are not available, even if you wanted to be. It's important to note that these activities do not have to be elaborate or noteworthy. Even simple tasks such as talking on the phone with a friend or taking care of household chores can be used to show that you are busy. If someone has made it clear that they do not prioritize you in their life, it's okay to make it known that they are not a priority in yours either.
3. Make sure you stick to every commitment you make
If (and when) he tries to win you back after realizing your worth, don't cancel your plans for him. No matter what you had scheduled for the day, it's more important than spending time with someone who didn't appreciate you before. Even if you were just planning to go shopping at Target, browsing for decorative towels is a better use of your time than being with him.
4. Take a social media sabbatical
It's tempting to try to make your ex jealous by posting pictures of yourself partying with other people on social media, but that just comes across as desperate. Not only will he see it, but all your friends will too, and you'll just end up with a lot of sympathy and hangovers. Instead, try not to vent about the breakup on social media and delete all the apps from your phone for at least a week. This will help you avoid regrets and make your ex wonder what you're really up to.
5. Don't talk crap to anyone outside of your trusted crap-talking circle
It's natural to want to talk about your hurt feelings after a breakup, but be careful who you confide in. Make sure you only vent to people who won't spread your words through the grapevine. If you're unsure, it's best to keep your thoughts to yourself or share them with a trusted confidant, like a close friend or your pet.
6. Treat yourself
Shopping can be a great way to lift your mood when you're feeling down, and it's a well-known form of therapy. Treat yourself to something new, like a dress or a pair of shoes, and you'll feel better in no time. If shopping isn't your thing, find another way to indulge in some self-care that makes you feel good. Do whatever it takes to boost your confidence and make you feel like a million bucks.
7. Talk to some Tinder randos
It may feel a little awkward, but talking to other people is an effective way to remind yourself that there are plenty of other options out there. Just because one guy is acting badly doesn't mean they all will. Try distracting yourself with some new prospects and before long, you'll be over your ex. It's time to find someone who treats you right.
8. Make a bucket list and start working on it
It's easy to get caught up in the drama of relationships and forget how much there is to enjoy in life. Just because the guy you like is treating you badly doesn't mean you can't have amazing experiences, like climbing mountains or eating a delicious maple bacon donut. Stop dwelling on what you can't do (like date the guy you want), and start reminding yourself of all the things you can do. There are so many possibilities out there, and you deserve to be happy.
9. Remind yourself of all the reasons you rule (and he doesn't)
It's easy to overlook someone's flaws when they make us feel inferior. We might focus on their positive qualities and ignore the negative ones. But if you take a step back and look at the situation objectively, it becomes clear that the guy isn't as great as you might have thought. If you're having trouble seeing things clearly, try seeking the advice of someone who is more objective, like a parent or a friend who isn't afraid to speak their mind. They can help you see the situation more clearly and move on.
10. If (when) he does reach out to you, be nice
Everything inside you will tell you to be cold and heartless or to write a long paragraph telling him off, complete with at least five hair flip emojis. But that kind of behavior is an obvious way of showing him you still care and even if you do, he doesn't deserve to know it. Instead, be polite, short, and way too busy. While it might be nice to get his attention, you can't forget about all the BS you had to go through to get it.