If He Doesn’t Care About Your Feelings, Why Do You Care About His?
Published in May 2021 / Updated in Aug 2021
If you are not in a relationship where you are getting as much as you are giving, then something’s not right. You should receive as much love and care as you are giving.
So, if you are getting anything less, you should seriously consider leaving and finding yourself someone who cares.
Here are a few truths about being involved with a guy who doesn't care about your feelings even though you care about his.
1. If He Doesn’t Care Now, He Never Will
Don’t think for a moment that a guy who doesn’t care right now will somehow give a damn later. Time does not always change people for the better.
People only change if they want to, and that rarely happens. So, this is not a chance worth taking.
2. If You Have To Ask Him To Care
One of the worst things you can do is beg someone for love. Someone who does not care about you should not get so much of your attention either.
3. If He Doesn’t Care About Your Feelings
If you can see that he does not care about your feelings, then it's time you left. Even if he has not hurt you seriously just yet, it’s only a matter of time before he does.
When you are special to a guy, he will be quite careful to ensure he does not hurt you.
4. Let Him Not Convince You He’s The Only One Who Will Care
Some guys want you to believe that no other man in the world will care about you as they do. Unless they can prove this with their actions, don’t believe it.
There are plenty of men out there who will care about you.
5. If He Doesn’t Listen To You, He's Not Worth It
All good relationships need good communication. So, a person who doesn’t listen can ruin your ability to communicate your needs and desires in a relationship.
That is why you should avoid guys who will never listen to you.
6. If He Won’t Fight For You Don’t Fight For Him
Ever tried to get someone to fight for you? That, without a doubt, is a losing battle.
In a relationship, you have to work together. Otherwise, you are basically working against each other, and that relationship will not go anywhere.
Stick with a man who fights for you.
7. You Always Catch Him Lying
If the first thing that comes into your mind when you think of your boyfriend is the lies he has told you, then you have a big problem.
The reason he is always lying is because he has terrible things to hide from you. If you compromise on this, then your relationship will not be a very happy one.
8. If He Has Double Standards
If he is making rules that only apply to you, you should get out of that relationship. The double standards can be about money, dressing, or sexual habits.
The rules you make in the relationship should apply to both of you.
9. If He Gets Angry Easily
You should be very wary of a man who flies off the handle at the drop of a hat. Such guys are usually abusive as well.
A mature and serious partner should have enough patience and self-control because that is definitely necessary for any relationship.
10. You Don’t Feel Like A Priority
A man who always has better things to do besides spending time with you or helping you out is clearly not right for you.
11. He Doesn’t Buy Anything
This does not mean buying fancy gifts, but the stuff you require, such as food and groceries. He doesn’t have to buy these things himself, but he should have no problem paying for them.
12. Don’t Try To Change Him Into Boyfriend Material
You can try, but a man will never change just because that’s what you want. So, any guy who needs a lot of work before he becomes the partner you need is not worth your time.
13. He Is Always Right
In a perfect relationship, you should all be right. Nobody should dominate the other with their opinions.
We should always be willing to accommodate each other’s opinions.
14. He Is Too Forgetful
Although we sometimes forget, sometimes forgetfulness is a huge red flag. However forgetful he is, he should never forget your birthday or anniversary.
15. If You’re The Only One Who Tries
You can’t give everything you have and get nothing in return. It’s just not fair.
Besides, being the only one who makes an effort will mean that you will get fed up with everything. That will ruin your self-esteem and your ability to find happiness in this life.
16. If He Keeps Breaking His Promises
Okay, nobody is perfect, and we can’t keep every promise we make. However, there are times you can tell that the man did not make any effort to follow through on what they promised, and that’s a huge red flag.
If you make plans and he never bothers to make them work, then he might be the wrong man for you.
A man who is right for you should have a reputation for doing what he says, not breaking his promises.
17. Your Love Should Be Mutual
Unrequited love will never fulfill you, regardless of how intense your feelings for him are. So, if he says he loves you, but his actions don’t prove it, then you are better off on your own.
18. Love Shouldn’t Hurt
Some people say that love hurts. But that does not mean you should put yourself through a lot of pain trying to care for a man who brings nothing but misery into your life.
If he does not bring joy into your life, then he clearly doesn’t love you enough. The right man will love you and make sure they bring joy and happiness into your life.
19. If He Says Hurtful Things To You
You might be in love with him, but does he say things that hurt your feelings? Maybe he is attacking your personality or the things you do.
Such a trait should be a serious red flag. A real partner should be your greatest supporter, and even when telling you something negative, they should say it lovingly without hurting your feelings.
20. He Makes You Feel He’s More Important
You should not let any man make you believe that he is more important than you are—everyone in the relationship matters.
So, if you feel like you are less important, then you shouldn’t be with him.
21. He Doesn’t Want To Do Things With You
If he is serious about being with you, then he should want to do things with you.
22. He Isn’t Interested In Knowing Your Friends
A man who wants a long-term relationship will want to know everything about you, including your friends and family members.
So, if he is not interested in spending time with your friends, he is not the right person for you.
23. He Never Helps
Any man will seize an opportunity to come to your aid.
Even if you are an independent woman, the right man will want to help you whenever he can. If he couldn’t care less, you shouldn’t either.
24. He Avoids Talking About The Future
If he looks bored and anxious whenever you try to talk about the future, then your relationship might not go very far.
So, if you wanted a long-term relationship, this is a sign that the relationship is not right for you.
25. He Never Compliments You
A good man will tell you how beautiful you are. He should take pride in your appearance and have genuine pride in having you as his woman.
26. He Always Complains About Your Relationship
It’s okay to say what you don’t like about a relationship. However, when someone has a problem with the relationship itself, then that’s a huge problem.
27. He Is Always Blaming You
Some guys might treat you like everything is your fault. No matter what happens, he will always finds a reason to blame you.
Such a man is obviously toxic and should have no business being in your life.
28. You Never Make Any Decision
In a relationship, everyone should have a say. So, if your opinions don’t matter, you are in a relationship with the wrong person.
29. He Openly Flirts With Other Girls
When a man is truly in love with you, he will not show interest in other girls. To him, you will be the most beautiful woman in the world.
Therefore, unless he doesn’t care about you, he won’t flirt with other girls.
30. He Is A Jealous Type
A man who always flies into a rage over jealousy is not worth your time or effort. A little jealousy can be expected in a relationship, but excess jealousy can limit your life or your life choices.
31. He Never Treats You Like You’re Special
No man will treat all the women in his life the same way. So, people will instantly know that you are special to him based on how he treats you.
Otherwise, if he doesn't treat you in a special way, that might be a sign that he doesn’t love you as much as you think he does.
32. All He Cares About Is Sex
A man who only cares about the sex he gets from the relationship does not genuinely care about you. There is more to a relationship than sex, although it is just as important.
33. He Avoids Sex With You
If you can tell that the man is avoiding having sex with you, then it might be because he no longer cares. Sex is one of the ways a man can show you he cares.
So, if he is boycotting this aspect of your relationship, then you have a good reason to think the worst of the relationship.
34. He Doesn’t Respect You
Respect comes with love. Therefore, when the love and the care are gone, the respect will, in all likelihood, disappear as well.
35. He Doesn’t Defend You In Public Any Longer
A man who loves and adores you would defend you in public every time. So, if people talk ill of you in public and he lets it slide, then he no longer cares, and it’s your time to leave.
To Sum Up
To live the life you want, you need to have standards, especially in romantic relationships. A toxic relationship can literally ruin your life.
Avoiding a terrible relationship starts with cutting off any involvement with the wrong partner. So, if you see any of the above signs, that man is not good enough for you, and you are better off taking a chance on another guy.