My date arrived on a chilly autumn evening sporting footy pajamas and thick-rimmed glasses. To my astonishment, I opened the door in a matching outfit. As a first-date destination, he suggested a Halloween bash and proposed that we dress as "sleepy hipsters" for both comfort and conversation-starting. Unexpectedly, our date extended beyond a simple kiss on the cheek and carried on until the following day. Thankfully, my pajama attire proved appropriate!
1. The moment felt right
From the moment we hopped into his car en route to the bash, he had me in stitches. We looked ridiculous in our get-ups, but the chance that two adults possessed full-sized footy pajamas was too irresistible to ignore. The coincidences kept rolling, though. We spent the night deliriously indulging in silly drinking games, mingling with his pals, and cherishing one another's company. It felt like our hundredth date, not our first. Each moment leading up to our decision to sleep together that night was absolute bliss.
2. Sex doesn't define relationships
The truth is, while sex can impact relationships in various ways, it has never been the defining factor in my own. Though I don't typically engage in sex on a first date, I sensed from the start that this was no ordinary rendezvous, and he was no ordinary man.
3. There's nothing wrong with being impulsive
Before I begin, I want to emphasize that unprotected sex is not alluring. I make sure to take necessary precautions when engaging in one-night stands or intimate encounters with a new partner. However, I have no qualms about making spontaneous decisions based on how I feel in the moment. Life is too brief to always be cautious and measured.
4. I'm a grown up that can make grown up decisions
Although we were donning juvenile attire, we were conscious of our behavior. As consenting adults, we agreed to engage in sexual activity on our first date. It's as straightforward as that. When I frame it in this manner, it doesn't sound as scandalous, does it?
5. We both made our intentions clear from the beginning
I had known this man for quite a while before we finally went on a date. Though we were more like acquaintances than pals, every interaction we had left me yearning for more. While I don't pass judgment on people who engage in sexual activity with strangers on a first date, he was no stranger to me at that stage. We were both aware that we wanted something to come of our initial date before it even started.
6. He showed me his true colors before it all went down
During our first date, we stumbled upon some makeshift DJ equipment, and without exchanging a word, we launched into an impromptu dance party. Despite making utter fools of ourselves, I relished every minute. I couldn't recall the last time I laughed and beamed so brightly. When the party eventually subsided and we acknowledged our incapacity to drive home, we found ourselves discussing "Lord of the Rings." It was so adorkable and authentic that I couldn't help but fall for him.
7. Second date jitters were thrown out the window
The morning after my date dropped me off, I won't sugarcoat it, I was feeling a bit off. My hangover was terrible, my appearance was disheveled, and I was feeling somewhat exposed. Later that day, I was nursing my hangover in the backroom at work when he texted me. He had just woken up, and he had a fantastic time the previous night. Did I want to grab coffee later? Any uncertainty I had about him being a mere one-night stand vanished, and we had a wonderful time recollecting stories from the night before.
8. I knew we were sexually compatible before we became a couple
While I don't think that sex should define a relationship, great sex can undoubtedly enhance a relationship! Having the assurance that we were compatible in bed before we became a couple is one of the reasons why I'll never feel remorseful for sleeping with him on the first date.
9. We were both waiting for the right person
Prior to our first date, both of us had been single for an extended period. We tried dating around after college, but neither of us felt a connection until we finally got together. I had almost lost hope in the dating world until he appeared, and suddenly, I was excited and eager to embark on a new journey.
10. We fell in love that night
Now, more than four years after that fateful first date, the guy who could have been just a one-night stand is my future husband. We still enjoy sitting down and remembering how wild we were on our first date, and he recently said something that caught me off guard. "You know we fell in love a little bit that night," he said. I laughed at first, as it was only our first date, but I knew he was absolutely correct. We did fall in love that night, in our own way, and looking back now, I have no regrets.