My advice to those who are considering leaving their careers for a relationship is simple - don't do it. Unless there are exceptional circumstances, I strongly advise against compromising your career for the sake of love. In my opinion, you should prioritize your career above all else. I followed this approach and have no regrets. By pursuing my professional goals, I not only achieved what I set out to do but also found a life partner in the process.
1. My career Always came first
From the beginning, I made a commitment to prioritize excelling in my career. Despite the time and effort I had invested in college and various temporary jobs, I refused to compromise on this goal. While I was open to meeting someone special, my career always came first, and I was determined not to let love interfere with my ambitions.
2. I managed to snag my dream job
As a child, I knew early on what career path I wanted to pursue, and I was very driven to succeed. I was so focused on my goal that I didn't have a backup plan in case it didn't work out. However, with a combination of hard work, luck, and determination, I eventually landed my dream job. Unless Prince Charming himself appeared, there was no way I would give up my career for a romantic relationship.
3. I learned how to be financially independent
Since my very first job, I have enjoyed receiving payment for the effort I put in. It was satisfying to be able to save up for things I wanted without having to rely on my parents. This sense of responsibility and achievement continued well into my twenties. For me, investing in my career was also investing in my financial well-being.
4. Being successful made me confident
Let's be honest - receiving a raise, promotion, or even just recognition in the workplace feels incredible. Completing a project ahead of schedule gives me a genuine sense of accomplishment. Knowing that I am skilled and successful in my job not only boosts my confidence at work but also outside of it. Even the most fulfilling relationship cannot provide me with the same level of satisfaction that excelling in my career does.
5. My ambition is what attracted my husband to me in the first place
While we were dating, I discovered that my partner genuinely appreciated my passion for work. He displayed a sincere interest in my ongoing projects, shared in my excitement about new opportunities, and provided support when I occasionally became stressed.
6. I liked paying my own way
The dating phase of a relationship can be challenging to navigate. While you're still getting to know each other, you don't want to cross any personal boundaries too soon. Despite my partner's offers to pay, I found it gratifying to cover my own expenses when we went out on dates.
7. Being committed to our careers made us closer
Aside from being an amazing person, I was particularly impressed by my partner's unwavering dedication to his career. We motivated each other to improve in our individual professions. I have to confess, seeing his level of ambition was a major turn-on for me, and I believe he felt similarly about my drive and career accomplishments.
8. If things didn't work out between us, I still had bills to pay
The primary reason why I would never prioritize a relationship over my job is that, even if the relationship ends, life goes on. You still have to fulfill your work responsibilities, pay bills, and attend to numerous other obligations. Unless you are in a deeply committed, long-term relationship or marriage, I wouldn't recommend sacrificing a career you enjoy for a romantic partner.
9. I'd never turn down a chance to advance my career
It's highly likely that at some point in your career, you'll have to work extended hours or travel, especially if your job demands it. This may require you to spend time away from your loved ones and your partner, potentially putting a strain on your relationship. However, it's essential to prioritize career growth and advancement opportunities over a romantic partner. Sacrificing career growth for a relationship is not worth it in the long run.
10. If it was meant to be, he'd be there no matter what
Since my career was a non-negotiable aspect of my life, I was certain that the ideal partner would be supportive and affectionate towards it. I recognized that I had found the right person when he not only expressed empathy for my existing career but also showed faith in me if I ever decided to pursue a different path.