Little did I know that accepting a surprise invitation from a friend to join a secretive Facebook orgy group would have such a profound impact on my sexual experiences. Discover how it influenced my future sexual encounters.

1. I didn't even know what the group was for at first

One day, I received a notification that a friend had added me to a covert Facebook group. When I inquired about it, he described it as a gathering of friends who hosted secretive parties with limitless possibilities. Intrigued and familiar with many members, I remained in the group to explore its potential.

2. A lot of the members were friends from the cuddle scene

Several of the individuals in the group were individuals I had shared platonic cuddle sessions with at cuddle parties. I found it fascinating to observe the crossover between these two spheres, and it provided me with a sense of comfort knowing that these people were not weirdos, but rather regular individuals who were open to physical intimacy. Having already cuddled with many of them made the notion of attending a sex party with them far less daunting.

3. The first party came around and I signed myself up

Although I had never attended an orgy before, I was determined to participate when the next one was announced. The thrill of RSVP'ing was palpable, and I couldn't believe my luck in stumbling upon such an extraordinary opportunity. Although I had no notion of what to anticipate, I reasoned that if it became overwhelming, I could depart at any moment.

4. Everything developed naturally and it wasn't awkward at all

The gathering began similarly to the cuddle parties I had previously attended, with socializing, food, and platonic cuddling. However, the cuddling progressed to nudity, followed by massages, oral sex, and eventually, a heap of naked and partially clothed individuals at one end of the room, with someone snoozing at the opposite end and a range of activity in between. Finding myself in the midst of such a surreal and delightful experience was truly bizarre.

5. I became more and more involved in the orgy scene

Following the initial gathering, I gravitated towards that social circle more often. Being surrounded by individuals who were comfortable discussing and partaking in sexual activities was freeing, and I encountered many individuals who were engaged in open relationships and BDSM, which intrigued me. Several of my closest friends were also members of that group, and it gradually became a significant aspect of my life.

6. The group kept growing, which made it even more enjoyable

Rather than being a stagnant group, the orgy group continued to grow as members invited friends who might enjoy an occasional orgy (as was the case with me). The first gathering I attended had 18 attendees, while the final one was restricted to 80 to preserve some sense of intimacy within the 250-strong group. It evolved into a small community, making it even simpler to become engrossed in it.

7. We became a supportive friendship network

A group of four friends initially organized a sex party, which eventually blossomed into a flourishing community of sex-positive individuals who supported one another. In addition to discussing sexuality, the group expanded to serve as a network for its members. For example, if someone required a plumber, they could solicit recommendations from the group, and someone would be able to assist. It was akin to a small society within our larger lives.

8. It was about 90% socializing and 10% sex

In addition to the scheduled sex parties, we organized numerous other events that centered on socializing rather than sex. During the summer, we went on picnics, swimming excursions, road trips, and visited aquariums. In the winter, we held sleepovers, discussion groups, and dinner parties. Our group's primary focus was on friendship, with sex being secondary.

9. Workshops were held by group members

Numerous group members possessed a keen interest in diverse facets of sexuality, resulting in frequent workshops conducted by these individuals solely for other group members. We were exposed to a range of subjects, including polyamory, massage, knife play, authentic communication, and bondage, among others. By being a part of this group, I gained access to a wealth of knowledge that I would have been unable to acquire on my own.

10. It helped me through some difficult times

As someone completely new to polyamory and BDSM, I was fortunate to be surrounded by more experienced individuals. During moments of uncertainty, I had other people to confide in, with some of them even becoming personal mentors to me. Amidst all the hedonism and indulgence, I also found genuine comfort and encouragement when grappling with these new aspects of my life. I never could have imagined how invaluable this group would become to me and I consider myself extremely fortunate to have discovered it.