If you've reached out to a close friend to express your frustration over the fact that "I gave him my number, but he hasn't texted me," you're not the only one. This is a common scenario that many people face at some point in their lives. In this article, we'll explore several potential explanations for why this may be happening to you.
WHAT DOES IT MEAN IF YOU GIVE A GUY YOUR NUMBER AND HE DOESN'T TEXT YOU
There are multiple factors that could explain why a man hasn't reached out after receiving your number:
1. He's Super Busy
Time flies when you have a lot on your plate. You don't have any insight into what's happening in the guy's life after just giving him your number. He may be occupied with work, school, or caring for his kids. Before jumping to conclusions, be understanding and give him more time.
2. The Guy Can't Find Your Number
Did you handwrite your number for him or did he save it on his phone? If you only wrote it down, it's possible he lost the paper. This is a common inconvenience that can occur when you're interested in someone and can't find important information they gave you. Although frustrating, it happens more frequently than you might realize.
3. He Got Your Info Wrong
Suppose you met an attractive man at a club and gave him your number. You both may have been slightly (or heavily) under the influence of alcohol, which could have led to mistakes when he saved your information in his phone. It's possible he transposed some digits or can't recall your name accurately (Was it Lisa or Laura? Oh well...).
4. Things Might Have Gotten Serious with Someone Else
If the guy has been seeing multiple people and has chosen to become exclusive with one of them, it's likely that he'll stop communicating with the others, including individuals he may have recently met.
5. He Just Might Not Be Into You
Rejection can be tough, but not everyone is compatible with each other. Often, when someone is offered a phone number, they accept it politely even if they're not interested. This is less uncomfortable than directly telling the person they're not interested. Although it's not a desirable outcome, it's a potential reality that should be considered.
HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE A MAN TO CALL AFTER YOU GIVE HIM YOUR NUMBER
It depends largely on the guy and his texting practices. Some follow the conventional "rules" of contacting women, which dictate that they should wait 48 to 72 hours before texting. This is supposedly to demonstrate that they're not overly eager. The prevalent belief is that appearing aloof and unapproachable makes them more attractive.
This approach is utilized by some guys and is appreciated by some women. However, there is no universal solution. If a guy is genuinely interested in you, he might call you soon after receiving your number, which could be seen as overeager or charming, depending on your perspective. Do you find it creepy or endearing? The answer depends on your personal preference.
As a general rule, you can anticipate hearing from a man within one to two weeks of giving him your number.
HOW LONG SHOULD I WAIT FOR THE TEXT?
The decision is ultimately yours to make. However, the term "waiting" implies that your emotions and security are dependent on someone else's actions. While you may have provided the guy with your information, it doesn't mean that your life should be put on hold while you wait for him to make contact.
Have you ceased your daily activities such as work, eating, sleeping, or communication with friends until you receive a text or call from this man? Of course not. There's no reason to do so. While getting to know someone new can be exciting, it's not worth dedicating all your time and energy to just one possibility.
As a general rule, allow a few weeks to pass. This gives consideration to his personal and professional commitments. If he is truly interested and hasn't inadvertently misplaced or deleted your information, you should expect to hear from him within this time frame.
It's important to understand that various factors can prevent people from staying in touch. For example, in the case of a sudden loss of a parent, he may be too emotionally burdened to reach out to anyone for an extended period of time. This does not necessarily indicate a lack of interest, but rather a need to go through a personal grieving process.
IT'S BEEN A WEEK SINCE I GAVE HIM MY NUMBER
Relax and calm yourself.
A week can go by quickly in the midst of a busy life, so try not to stress if it's been that long. Time flies and it's easy to lose track.
Try to shift your attention away from constantly checking your phone for a text from him. Instead, think about what activities or interests you would be engaged in if you had never met him or given him your number. Focus on those things and enjoy your time.
Try to shift your focus away from the guy. Remember, you can function and be happy without him. Don't allow the unknown to consume you.
Focus on making the most of each moment, without being consumed by the thought of waiting for a potential text from someone you met. Live your life to the fullest, and let the text be a bonus if and when it comes.
I GAVE HIM MY NUMBER BUT HE DIDN'T GIVE ME HIS – WHAT SHOULD I DO?
If you struggle with social anxiety, waiting for a text from someone can be nerve-wracking. The absence of communication can amplify your anxiety, especially when it comes to texting, as you don't have any control over the situation. You gave him your number, but he has all the power and you don't have his email or any other means of reaching out to him.
It's understandable why the uncertainty and lack of control in this situation can trigger anxiety. When the sole means of communication rests solely in the hands of another person, it can be unsettling and add stress to an already nerve-wracking situation.
It's best to avoid being too aggressive or appearing needy in this situation. If you have mutual friends, ask them to pass along a friendly message. However, if you don't have any connections, refrain from stalking him on social media.
Think about how you would react if a guy you gave your number to reached out to you through Facebook or Instagram because he felt you hadn't contacted him quickly enough. Would you be pleased or would it make you uncomfortable because he's behaving like a stalker?
Avoid being perceived as creepy or stalk-like in your behavior.
Not hearing from a guy after giving him your number doesn't have to be a source of worry. Life's events will eventually lead to a resolution, one way or another.
Sometimes connections simply don't work out and that's okay. Life goes on and there will be other opportunities for meaningful connections. Don't put too much weight on this one situation. Remember, not every connection is meant to lead somewhere.
Keep in mind that he may not be what he seems. There may be red flags or negative traits that you haven't discovered yet. Don't get too fixated on the fact that he hasn't texted, focus on the potential reality of who he really is.
If destiny has it in the cards, it will unfold. And if not, the right person will come into your life when the timing is right.