It wasn't a quick process, but I eventually learned to love myself. It took several years for me to come to terms with and admire the person I saw in the mirror, but once I did, I discovered a woman who is powerful, resilient, and competent. It's an incredible sensation that I've ever felt.
1. I Didn't Like Who I Was Before
I used to compare myself to other women my age, especially the gorgeous and successful ones, and I always felt like I came up short. I would constantly dwell on my weaknesses and failures, making it difficult to accept myself. But eventually, I reached a breaking point. I changed my mindset and started to recognize my own strengths, accomplishments, and aspirations. I stopped coveting other people's seemingly perfect lives and instead started tending to my own garden.
2. I Cut Myself Some Slack
I came to the realization that life is intricate, and I don't need to have all the answers or solutions - despite my best efforts. As a human being, I am bound to make mistakes, lose sight of things, and that's perfectly alright. I began to show myself more compassion and stopped obsessing over minor details. Letting go of my inner critic enabled me to find inner peace.
3. I Got More Comfortable In My Own Skin
When I began to like the person reflected in the mirror, I knew I was falling in love with myself. No longer did I feel the need to follow trends or please others. I found joy in being myself and it made me feel good. I enjoyed my style, laughed more, and became more compassionate towards others.
4. I Don't Need a Relationship To Feel Whole
When I learned to love myself, I became self-sufficient. Instead of relying on someone else to fulfill me, I focused on my own goals and desires. I'm content in my own company and don't feel the need to search for love just to feel complete. I trust that it will happen naturally when the time is right.
5. I'm Comfortable In My Own Company
I didn't isolate myself from my loved ones; I simply learned to pursue my passions independently. I started exercising, drawing, writing, and meditating, and as I spent more time alone, the fear of solitude diminished. I am no longer frightened of being by myself.
6. I'm Not Afraid to Speak My Mind
I have gained more confidence and stopped second-guessing myself. I now pursue what sets my soul on fire and speak up about the things I believe in. I have learned to ask for what I want and request help when I need it, without fear or hesitation.
7. I Found Courage I Never Knew I Had
After falling in love with myself, I gained the courage to say no to the things that don't serve me, even if it means declining an opportunity that looks impressive on the surface. While I still avoid activities like mountain climbing due to my fear of heights, I've learned to prioritize my growth and well-being by making choices that align with my values and aspirations.
8. I Started Living Selfishly And it Feels Great
Putting my own happiness first is no longer something I feel guilty about. I've come to recognize who I am and what I deserve. Falling in love with myself has taught me what I need, and I'm now pursuing those things with newfound freedom.
9. I Stopped Caring About How Society Sees Me
I have let go of the pressure to conform to society's standards and expectations. My focus is on my own desires and aspirations, rather than seeking validation from others. By listening to my inner voice, I no longer prioritize the opinions of others over my own well-being. I am the author of my own story, and I am free to live it on my own terms.
10. I Developed a Thirst For Life
Once I fell in love with myself, I fell in love with life. I began to relish the simple moments like watching the sunset or savoring the aroma of coffee in the morning. I started treating myself to solo dates and prioritizing my happiness. Loving myself motivates me to live each day to the fullest, which includes prioritizing myself over unfulfilling relationships, toxic friendships, and harmful circumstances. I am responsible for my emotions, and I choose to be genuinely happy.