I Don't Want Just A Lover, I Want A Lover Who Is My Best Friend

I Don’t Want Just A Lover, I Want A Lover Who Is My Best Friend

I want a lover who is also my best friend. That may make me sound like a hopeless romantic. Maybe I am, but I make no apologies for that. It's exactly what I want, and I choose not to settle for any less.

I want someone who sees all of me and appreciates all that he sees. I don't want to always have to try so hard to put forward the best part of me. I want someone who will see me without all the layers of makeup and still think I'm the most beautiful girl that ever walked God's green earth. I want him to see me having a breakdown and crying my eyes out, and at that moment, the only thought in his mind would be how he can make it better. I want to show him my vulnerabilities and know that I can let my guard down around him.


I want to live, laugh and laugh some more with him. Save for the inevitable occasional fight, I want our moments together to be fun-filled, and everything we will remember when we are older. Whether it's just sitting at home and watching our favorite movies, or going on a road trip out of town together, I want us to be able to have fun together.


I want to share my deepest thoughts, my fears, my hopes and my ambitions with him. Everything there is to know about me, I want to tell him. I want to know all there is to him. From our silly and most embarrassing moments to our plans for the future, I want to share it all. I want a best friend–lover who will listen to me without judging, a person who will encourage me to be the best version of myself without putting me down.

I want to do life with him. Not just trying new things together, but doing everyday mundane things. I want us to cook together, clean our home together, go shopping for groceries together, and feed the birds at the park together. Just being together turns every little thing into an experience worth remembering.


I want someone I can be my silly and goofy self around. Someone with whom silly pranks on each other will be something that we can call our thing. I want someone who will get my silly jokes and share with me some of his own. I want someone who I will share inside jokes with, and we can look at each other across any room and just burst out laughing. I want to be able to laugh so hard my eyes become teary, and my stomach hurts just a little.


When all else around me seems to be falling apart, it will always bring me so much comfort to know that there's one who will always be there to catch me. My friend and lover who will stick it out with me through the roughest of times and ride through the bad times with me. I want a lover who will stand by me through the bad patches that life throws my way.

I want someone who will send me random texts in the middle of my workday. Texts so sweet, I'll be smiling the rest of the day. I want a lover who will surprise me with a party for my birthday, or a weekend getaway just because he can.

I want to spend the rest of my life with my best friend. I want to watch him grow old and celebrate our life together every day. I could go on and on because I cannot imagine life any other way. I want a lover who is also my best friend.