Regardless of what you are trying to achieve in life, saying "I can't do it" sets you up for failure. For some people, some goals are certainly out of reach. Only a fraction of the population can become elite sports stars, and even fewer will win the biggest prizes. In the world of music and art, you have to be both gifted and lucky to rise above your peers and get noticed.
With this in mind, as long as there is a tiny chance of success, you could at least hope that you might prevail. Whether your goals are very ambitious or relatively simple, do not take them lightly. Finding success and crossing goals off your list is key to building self-confidence and progressing in your career or personal life. Winning a small battle is a requirement for more hard-fought victories down the line.
The "I can't do it" mentality is often a lie. By telling yourself this, you are accepting future disappointments that you are capable of avoiding. You may lack the motivation, courage, or skills right now to chase your dream, but these traits can all be obtained with time. Surprisingly, most barriers exist only in your mind.
The following pieces of advice should allow you to stay focused on your targets in challenging moments. They will also help you to squash any irrational doubts that arise in your head.
1. Take Small But Productive Steps
Before you start on a new project or journey, the final result can appear very far away. Most worthwhile things will indeed take a long time to accomplish. However, some tasks are simply monumental. This initial fear is demoralizing and is enough to convince many people not to pursue that goal. Success can seem so distant that any short-term efforts might feel useless.
Every marathon starts with a single step, and every next step brings you closer to the finish line. Remember that any progress, no matter how small, is good progress. The important lesson is to keep moving towards your target. Pay no attention to how fast others achieved what you are attempting. It is much better to get there late than never.
2. It Is Good To Feel Uncomfortable Sometimes
Feeling discomfort is an instinct to help us avoid potentially unpleasant or dangerous situations. From a young age, we usually avoid discomfort at all costs and only tolerate it when we have to. As you get older, you have to understand that feeling uncomfortable is sometimes a sign of development.
While your body will hurt after suffering an injury, it may also hurt after exercising. The latter is a sign that your body will heal and become even stronger. Recognize that the discomfort you feel in certain situations is not harmful ― rather, it is proof that you are breaking new ground and moving towards your goal.
One of the most uncomfortable times is at the beginning of a new endeavor. Many people are afraid to fail, but this fear alone has killed many more dreams than failure ever could.
3. Every Expert Was Once A Beginner
No matter how advanced somebody's skills are, they were once a novice. Unless they started their craft at birth or are incredibly gifted, it probably took them a long while to get to where they are today. The journey you are about to embark on is likely not very different from theirs. Understanding that experts have started from nowhere puts the task of becoming one into perspective ― it is far from impossible.
Take inspiration from individuals who are in the position you are dreaming of. Before you say, "I can't do it," know that you can get closer to them step-by-step every day.
4. It Was Never Going To Be Easy
Nearly everything that you can be proud of takes hard work. If it were easy, everyone would do it ― that is what makes those achievements unique. Do not say, "I can't do it." Instead, embrace hard work and realize it is a necessary ingredient of your victories.
5. Maybe You Can Do It ― Just Not Alone
I can't do it... by myself. Maybe that is what you mean. In that case, it is acceptable to seek help. Behind every individual triumph is the dedication and assistance of friends, family members, mentors, and others. Significant accomplishments are rarely the result of one person's work or knowledge.
You should not be shy to ask the right people for help when you need it. It is great if they want you to succeed too. If others are invested in your success, they will want to protect you from making bad decisions.
6. Things Rarely Go Exactly As Planned
Perhaps you have already started working towards a target but have hit a wall. This can be particularly frustrating because you may have spent significant time to get to this point. You don't wish to turn around and quit since that would mean your efforts are wasted.
The road towards greatness almost always has bumps that will slow you down. When this happens, it is crucial to weather the storm. When something does not go how you expected it to, do not worry. Instead, learn to adapt quickly and to be flexible when you encounter issues. This is part of the process, so expect the unexpected.
7. It Is Okay To Try A New Approach
Giving up on something does not necessarily mean you are quitting. It may be that your approach to tackling a challenge was wrong. In these instances, it is appropriate to completely abandon your path and start again from scratch.
Trying again is the perfect action to take because you will not waste more time on a strategy that does not work. You can dedicate your focus to finding the correct technique to get quickly back on track.
8. Appreciate How Far You Have Come
Even after making good progress, the finish line can feel very far away. It is tempting to look ahead at your target constantly, but you will lose sight of your hard work thus far. You should take time to reflect on how much effort you have already made to put yourself in your current position.
Giving yourself deserved credit will significantly motivate you. It will also remind you that, having already done so much, you are capable of doing the same again and going all the way to the finish.
9. Others Who Succeeded Said The Same
It is guaranteed that somebody going down the same path as you in the past said, "I can't do it." Their eventual accomplishment of the goal debunks this statement on its own. What they once considered impossible is now an established part of their history. The same can be true for you.
Although this does not mean you will have the same level of success, it does prove that humans create unnecessary obstacles in their minds. Next time you are convinced that something cannot be done, look at the real-life examples that say otherwise.
10. Remind Yourself Why You Started In The First Place
If you can dig deep and recall the exact reasons why you set out to accomplish something, minor doubts and worries become trivial. You are unlikely to have an "I can't do it" attitude if you are able to feel the raw passion and excitement you had when beginning your project.
The most effective way to remind yourself of your initial motivation is by writing your reasons down or looking at vivid images of what first inspired you. Repeat this any time you are unmotivated and facing a tough challenge.
I Can't Do It... Now, But Will Soon Enough
There are many other variations of this that you will hopefully be saying. More often than not, "I can't do it" is untrue. Unless your target is physically impossible or you have very limited time, there is a chance for you to succeed.
These ten rules should enable you to properly question yourself if you doubt overcoming challenges on your journey to success.