The approach to sex and dating has been transformed by the hookup culture, but that does not imply that I will conform to it. I am not playing games, and I have had my share of fun, but I have had enough of it. If you intend to date me, don't expect to get intimate right away. This is not because I am uptight, or teasing you, or using it as a ploy to get into a relationship. I am an adult woman who won't give in until you demonstrate your worth.
1. It Weeds Out The Players
If we've been on a couple of dates, and you decide to back out or stop responding to my messages after trying (and failing) to sleep with me, I won't stop you from leaving. This is an old tune I have heard before. A lot of men believe that just because hookup culture is prevalent, it's a given. It isn't, at least not in my world.
2. I Want The Guy Who Stands Out From The Crowd
It's typical in today's dating world to expect sex while dating, but that isn't going to happen with me - not right away. I desire a man who will take the time to understand me and appreciate the amazing things that come with getting to know me. Such men are rare these days, but they stand out above the rest. If you are impatient, you are revealing your true colors, and I am not interested in that.
3. I've Been There, Done That
Jumping into bed immediately isn't my cup of tea, not because I'm entirely blameless, but I yearn for genuine emotions. Before taking that ultimate step of intimacy, I require time and emotional investment to know that my partner is serious.
4. I've Learned My Lesson The Hard Way
My trust in previous relationships proved false, leading to hurt and embarrassment. To avoid repeating the same mistakes, I need to know that my feelings are reciprocated. The wait makes the experience even more rewarding.
5. I'm Looking For More
A one-night stand doesn't interest me. I'm searching for a life partner and not just someone to connect with physically. For me to be comfortable in sharing intimate moments, I need to know that our connection is real and heading in the right direction.
6. If You Want Me, Earn Me
If you desire my affection, it should be a two-way street. I'm willing to give my heart and everything that comes with it as long as you prove that you're different from my past experiences and that you're dedicated to earning a place by my side.
7. The Right Guy Won't Care
If you are truly the right person for me, you won't be bothered by the fact that I am not ready to have sex right away. Instead, you will be attracted to my personality, intelligence, sense of humor, and adventurous nature. Although you may still experience sexual urges, you will respect my wishes and understand that I am not yet ready.
8. Sex With Emotion Is Infinitely Better
Engaging in purely physical relations does not satisfy me. I need more than that. I need to feel cared for, to know that you are invested in me, and that our relationship has the potential to grow into something more meaningful. If you're only interested in a casual fling, then you are not the right person for me.
9. I'm Worth The Wait
I am fully aware of my worth, both in and out of the bedroom. I am willing to put in the effort to find someone who is deserving of me, someone who will appreciate all that I have to offer. If you want to pursue a relationship with me, you will need to show me that you are worth my time and energy, and that you are not simply looking for a quick and easy hookup.