Upon ending a long-term relationship and opting to be single for a while, numerous individuals advised me that I made the right choice because "it's always good to take some time to find yourself." Although I respect anyone's personal goals, I disagree. My decision to spend time as a single woman was driven by my desire to shape myself, rather than discovering myself. As a result, I've chosen to take as much time as I need to avoid the dating scene and treat myself as an unfinished work of art.
1. I'm Confident About Who I Am At This Point In My Life
I do not feel the need to discover myself because I believe I am exactly where I should be. Although I have a long way to go, I do not believe that any missing pieces will magically appear just because I am not in a relationship.
2. I Know I Still Have So Much To Learn About Myself And The World
I am undoubtedly a work in progress. I am young, inexperienced in many aspects of life, and unafraid to acknowledge that I am just starting out. I reject the notion that a more complete version of myself is out there waiting to be discovered now that I am single. That woman does not exist; she has not been crafted yet, but she will be someday.
3. Being In A Relationship Right Now Would Only Hold Me Back
The ideal partner should enhance your life, not hinder it. However, I am currently not ready to embark on a journey to find that person. Even if my perfect match appeared out of the blue today, I would decline their offer. I am focused on becoming the artist that I aspire to be, and if anyone has the potential to impede my progress, they will need to take a backseat for the time being.
4. I Need To Focus On My Own Work Of Art Right Now, Not Someone Else's
At this juncture in my life, I possess a positive form of tunnel vision. I am focused on my aspirations and objectives, and I acknowledge that being a little self-centered is necessary to accomplish them. While in a relationship, I desire to give my all to my significant other and help them achieve their goals as well. It would be unjust to both of us if I were to enter into a relationship while aware that I couldn't provide my partner with everything they deserve. Therefore, at present, I am solely dedicating all my passion and determination to myself.
5. I Want This Part Of My Life To Be A Self-portrait
While I anticipate welcoming a romantic partner into my life in the future, I recognize the need to prioritize my self-love and development at this time. Previously, I have invested too much energy into others at the expense of my own progress. Moving forward, I will continue to support loved ones but will also focus on my own growth.
6. I'm Not Lost
The person you see sitting right in front of you is the complete me. I do not have any hidden parts that need to be discovered or saved. I am not certain about my future, and it doesn't matter as I don't have to know it before falling in love again. Although the woman I will become tomorrow or next week or ten years from now will be different from who I am today, she was always within me, waiting to be refined and detailed.
7. I Embrace My Incompleteness
While some may find the idea of being unfinished strange, I embrace it. It means that there is always room for improvement, no matter how good I am right now. I am content with taking my time to be single and work on my rough edges before revealing myself to my future partner. Rather than feeling disheartened, the prospect of becoming a better and more accomplished version of myself excites me. I aspire to offer the best possible edition of myself to my next significant other when the time is right.
8. I Want To Hold My Own Paintbrush
A supportive partner is one who encourages your personal growth rather than obstructing it. I have had boyfriends who have influenced the person I am today, but this time, I want to be the sole architect of my destiny, at least for a while. Although anyone who wants to join me on this journey is welcome, I feel that having a boyfriend would prevent me from exerting the effort required to create the person I want to become.
9. I Don't Want To Be In A Relationship Until I'm Content With What I've Created
When it comes to giving gifts to those we truly care about, we wouldn't settle for a mediocre creation. It's important to showcase our best work and give our loved ones the best possible outcome. Similarly, in a serious relationship, I want to present the best version of myself to my partner. Although it may not be the finished product, I want to ensure that I'm offering the best possible version of myself to someone who is also presenting their best self.
10. I Have Every Intention Of Creating A Masterpiece
I am not content with merely existing and want to live a purposeful life. My aspirations are high, and I will not settle for anything less than excellence. I am determined to create an exceptional version of myself and will put in the necessary effort to accomplish that goal, even if it means being alone for a while. I am content with the person I have become, and I am not afraid of investing time and energy into my personal growth. Ultimately, whether I end up happily single or happily married, I will be proud of the person I have evolved into, no matter what obstacles I faced along the way.
