Published in Oct 2019 / Updated in Oct 2021
What's the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear someone is unavailable? If you are most people, you get images of egotistical pretenders who get off playing cruel mind games on others, right?
But let me break it to you. That is not the kind of unavailable I am talking about here.
I am not here to gloat about ignoring people and pretending I have no time for them.
Who has time for that anyway? Certainly not me.
The unavailability I am talking about is different.
Allow me to explain.
I am unavailable in that I will not waste my time and energy on things and people who will drain my soul or break my heart.
In other words, people who have nothing positive to bring into my life have no place in it. Thank you very much.
Love without respect and appreciation doesn't mean anything. And that can't be real love anyways. Love cherishes, and it's not selfish.
That is why I am cutting off people who "love" me when they need something but forget I even exist when the shoe is on the other foot.
I mean, who lets someone they love go through hell and looks the other way?
So, to the people who like me but would not hesitate to get rid of me if the conditions favored them, you have no place in my life.
Why be with someone who disappoints you again and again and it does not bother them one bit?
That is why I have made the decision to be unavailable to such people. To these people, forgiveness is a given, and they will wrong you again and again and come ask for forgiveness before doing another despicable thing to you.
Some will bring all their baggage and dump it on your lap and take off to make more bad decisions, leaving you to clean up the mess.
For the sake of my own well-being, I have to let go of such people. I have enough problems of my own, and even when I don't, my heart does not need to be weighed down by other people's issues. Not when they have nothing but bad moments to offer me.
Every good relationship requires some give and take. Period.
So, where is my fair share? Why am I not getting what I'm due? Why do I always have to be the responsible one? The loving one? The caring one? The available one?
The miss dependable?
Where are they when I need love and care? When I need someone I can count on to come through for me without fail, why is none in sight?
I know I deserve such people in my life. And by getting rid of those who are not, I am creating room for them.
I will not make myself available to certain people, vibes, or circumstances.
This time it is different.
This is where I draw the line, and people who don't value me belong on the other side of it.
And guess what? I am happier because of it!
My unavailability is improving my life and attracting people who are worthy of my respect. People who can understand my worth.
So, join me in breaking the bad patterns. Learn to let go of what does not belong in your life. Trust me, the right relationships, circumstances, and the right energy will have a place in your life and make it a happy one. In other words: learn to be unavailable!