If you're not careful, being in a long-term relationship can become dull. I didn't realize this was happening with my partner until I allowed my ego to grow. Despite being in a relationship with someone who could be my forever person, I almost lost him because I believed I was superior to him. To prevent this from happening to you, avoid letting your ego take control. Here's how I let my ego interfere and what you should avoid doing if you want to maintain a lasting relationship.
1. I Thought I Was Too Good For Him
My ego took over and convinced me that I was too good for my partner. Despite being an incredible, kind, and loving person that any girl would want to be with, I thought that I could do better. I started to believe that I was better than him, even though I didn't deserve his love. My ego made me feel like I was the best thing since sliced bread, and I began to think that my partner wasn't good enough for me.
2. I Gave My Attention To Other Guys Who Wanted Me
Although I was in a committed relationship, I enjoyed the attention I received from other men. Their flirting flattered me, and I let them continue to do so, knowing that it was wrong. I felt like I was hot stuff because so many guys wanted my attention, but I didn't think about how it could impact my relationship. I nearly left my true love for a fling or a one-night stand. Fortunately, I recognized my behavior and changed my actions before it was too late.
3. I Took Him For Granted
Have you ever taken something great for granted? I was fortunate enough to be in a relationship with an amazing, kind-hearted man whom all my friends admired. However, I failed to appreciate him and acted like it was no big deal. I overlooked the small things he did for me each day and how much he cared for me. My ego took over and I ignored the wonderful things he brought into my life.
4. I Stopped Putting Effort Into Our Relationship
I convinced myself that our relationship was worthless, and this is how I treated it. I didn't try to fix the problems or adjust my behavior. I let things go downhill slowly. I stopped doing the little things that meant so much, like saying "I love you" or giving him a goodbye kiss. I didn't attempt to reignite the passion we once had. I didn't care if everything fell apart because I was too consumed by my ego and thought that I was better than him.
5. I Told Myself He Wasn't Worth My Time
My ego caused me to undervalue the worth of my partner, as he didn't fit my ideal of being a high-flying, prosperous businessman. I convinced myself that his background and job position made him inferior to me, which was an entirely flawed way of thinking. It's appalling to have such thoughts about anyone, especially the person I was in a relationship with, and it disgusts me to even acknowledge it. Fortunately, I came to the realization of how misguided I was, and I was able to rescue my relationship and rid myself of my ugly ego.
6. Other People Told Me I Was Better Than Him
It's true that some individuals supported the negative beliefs my ego was feeding me. In hindsight, I realize that those individuals weren't truly my friends and didn't have my best interests at heart when they encouraged me in that way. However, at the time, I believed them and allowed my ego to inflate even more, which prevented me from seeing how amazing my partner truly was.
7. My Ego Turned Me Into Someone I Didn't Even Like
As a result of my over-inflated self-image, I transformed into a person who acted in ways that were completely out of character for me. I became excessively self-absorbed, seeking attention from other men and displaying behaviors that were neither loving nor humble. It wasn't until I paused and assessed my actions that I realized I was on the verge of becoming someone who could cheat on her boyfriend, a person I vowed never to become. This realization shook me to the core, and I finally comprehended the extent of harm I was causing my relationship and the man I genuinely cared for.
8. I Didn't See How Our Relationship Was Falling Apart
As I continued to feed my ego and focus solely on my own desires, I failed to notice that my relationship was slowly crumbling. The intimacy between us was fading away, and our conversations became forced and melancholy. Although I may have recognized these issues on some level, my ego urged me to ignore them, making the situation even worse. I never fully comprehended how my actions were hurting my partner until it was almost too late.
9. I Thought I Could Break Hearts And Not Get Caught
I convinced myself that I was unbeatable, and breaking my partner's heart wouldn't matter. I strutted around with an air of invincibility, disregarding the hurt I caused. I was so delusional that I believed I could do anything I pleased. However, I was mistaken. My actions not only caused him pain, but they also inflicted harm on me.
10. My Perspective Clouded My Judgment
Standing where I was, the relationship appeared dismal, and I convinced myself that I was worthy of better treatment. This perception persuaded me to engage in behaviors that were typically out of character for me, such as flirting with other men and being dishonest with my partner. I wrongly believed that I was in an unsatisfactory relationship, but the truth was that I was the one causing the harm. If only I had adjusted my perspective, I would have realized that I was ruining the greatest relationship of my life. Fortunately, I eventually came to my senses and recognized my behavior before it was too late. I am grateful that I did so because I am still with that man, who is genuinely the love of my life, and I never want my ego to jeopardize our relationship again.