Roses are red, violets are blue, but your crush doesn't necessarily need to be crushing on you. Yes, you've heard me!
While perfect and flawless love exists in love novels, movies, and songs, the love that we experience, on the other hand, is real-life love. Love includes happiness, sadness, and moments between them.
Everyone at least once in a lifetime had a crush on someone who didn't care about them. It is a painful and unpleasant experience, but only if that's the case. Then how do you know if you imagined it or if your crush doesn't like you?
To test your assumptions, look at these signs that indicate that he/she doesn't like you. Three or more signs are a red alarm that you should wish him luck with another girl, and at the same time be patient and wait for your Prince Charming. There is always at least one in everyone's life.
Signs He Is Someone Else's Prince Charming
What's the worst thing that can happen if you find out he doesn't like you? You know that he is just one of a million guys you can meet in your life with whom you can potentially be happy. Then why the annoyance?
However, if following the signals and signs listed below, you realize that you made a mistake in the assessment, give him a chance to win your heart. Or eventually, be the one who wins!
First, let's look at those signs, and then we will conclude, because we don't want to jump into them, right?
1. He Never Approached You
You see him all the time - at school, in the city, in a cafe, you have mutual friends, you visit more or less the same places. However, he still hasn't approached you. Normally, that makes you wonder why this is so.
Everyone taught us since we were little that boys don't cry and that they are like soldiers - strong, brave, and fearless. As we grow up, we realize that the roles are not exactly like that - men also cry, and men are sometimes shy. Is it possible that this is the case with your sympathy as well?
However, if you see that he is not so shy towards other girls, or someone confirms it to you, likely, you are not the one he likes. Hard to accept, but we can't force some things.
Another thing to keep in mind is time. Some things take more time than others, so be patient. Of course, patience, in this case, should be limited. If a month and more has passed since he shows no signs of interest, it's time to turn your head away from that situation. We don't want to chase anyone, do we?
2. He Doesn't Follow You On Social Media
Today, everyone is at least on one of the many social networks. Does the person you like also use Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, TikTok, or something else? Do you use those media? If both answers are yes, do you follow each other on those networks? Are you friends on Facebook?
If the answer is no, and you are not friends on social media, I'm afraid that this is a sign that he doesn't need information about you.
What is worse is that you follow him on Instagram, but he never followed you back! If things stand like this, that is a red flag right away! He certainly knows who you are, and you are not the one he wants to follow. The best thing you can do in a situation like this is to unfollow him and preserve your dignity.
3. You Heard Various Rumors
People often say - where there's smoke, there's fire. And people don't say that for no reason.
Pay attention to the rumors - if you heard that he was sending messages to another girl (or several of them), try to find out if that is the case. Don't just dismiss it as untrue because you don't like it as true. Of course, examining rumors should be discreet.
If it turns out that he appears in the inboxes of other girls or at least that he sends messages to a certain girl - it means that this is his sphere of interest. In which you are not.
5. You Saw Him Flirting (with Another Girl)
If you noticed that your crush is extremely "friendly" towards another girl and often gives that girl compliments, or he's joking about their potential romance, you should know that he likes that girl and not you.
The signs can be much more subtle. For example, your crush often looks at her, often talks to her directly (while that is not the case with you), laughs at all her jokes, and tries to make her laugh.
Although this may seem like friendly behavior, you need to pay attention to small signals. We should also add here the way he addresses other girls (or one of them), in other words - tone.
Always keep in mind that if he likes you, he will definitely show it, and he will express it through one of the above ways. Pay attention to whether this above is addressed to you or someone else.
6. Your Friends Think It's Not Worth The Effort
Well, if they say so…
When we like someone, we often wear "pink-colored glasses." Then our friends come to our aid. They will objectively look at the situation for us.
So your friends told you not to bother with him? There must be a reason for that! They see something that you are unable to see because of your affection. They've probably noticed that he's not paying attention to you. Probably the reason for that is that he is already paying attention to another girl.
If you are sure you have real friends, listen to them. Now you need someone who will rationally think, so you should use the friendly advice you get.
7. You Approached Him First, And You're Still Not Together
This one's obvious.
As we have already mentioned, guys can be shy. When that is the case, it is okay for the girl to take the first step. We live in 2021! However, you have already approached your crush and showed him that you like him, and how did he react?
If openly showing affection did not lead to the result you were hoping for, you should accept that he is not interested in you. One thing is for sure - he would never have missed such a chance if he cared.
What then? It is not the end of the world! Although it is clear that he doesn't want a relationship, that doesn't necessarily mean that something is wrong with you or that he's a bad person. You just weren't made for each other. And that's okay.