How To Tell If You Have Good Chemistry With A Date Over FaceTime

Whether you're in a long-distance relationship, social distancing, or leading busy lives, getting to know someone virtually may be your only option. Fortunately, there are many video chat platforms available, including FaceTime, Google Duo, Facebook Messenger, Zoom, and Google Hangout. However, it can be more challenging to determine if there's chemistry when you're not together in person. Here are nine ways to tell if you're hitting it off with someone remotely.


1. The Convo Isn't Trailing

If you're communicating effectively, even introverts know how to engage in conversation. If you're struggling to find the right words or constantly filling awkward silences with pointless small talk, it's possible that you're not connecting with the right person. When you have a connection with someone, you should have shared interests that make conversation easy. Even seemingly uninteresting individuals can enjoy talking about mundane topics that are of mutual interest.


2. You're Getting To Know Each Other

Simply being able to talk to someone doesn't equate to fully connecting with them. If you've been talking to someone for an entire week but still don't know much about their past, future goals, interests, hopes, fears, or dreams, you may have only scratched the surface. If you're headed towards a relationship with someone, you should feel like you're getting to know them on a deeper level. You shouldn't speak to someone for days and still feel like you're talking to a stranger.


3. You Find Yourself Not Wanting To Hang Up

The dating game can be frustrating and tiresome. When you finally match with someone who isn't a headache, it can feel like a relief, and even more, it should be exciting. If you hit it off and don't want to end the conversation because it's going so well, then that's a good sign that you've found someone compatible.


4. You're Not The Only One Initiating Contact

However, your excitement alone may not be enough to guarantee that things will work out with someone. If you find yourself becoming overly attached to someone during video chats, then it may be a sign that the attraction is one-sided. On the other hand, if you're both regularly reaching out to each other, then it's a good indication that he wants to spend quality time with you, even if it's virtual.


5. He Isn't Hiding You & His Life

While video chatting can be enjoyable, it's not a guarantee that you won't end up being someone's virtual side-chick or booty call. If he frequently ends your calls when someone else is around or when he's going home, then you should be suspicious. However, if he introduces you to those around him and shows you his living space during video calls, then this is a good sign for the potential of what you two have.


6. You Catch Him Smiling And Staring At You

I understand that the main purpose of a video chat is to see each other, but there is more to it than that. Just because someone appears on the screen doesn't mean they will maintain eye contact with you. However, if he is focused on you throughout the conversation and has a consistent smile on his face, there's a good chance that he is attracted to you and likes what he sees.


7. The Convo Flows Naturally

When the conversation flows naturally, with each person's words sparking a story or a new topic, it's a sign of compatibility. While it's natural to have questions when getting to know someone, it can be uncomfortable when it feels like you're being interviewed or interrogated. Conversation starters can be useful, but they're just a starting point. If you and your partner aren't getting in sync with each other, it may indicate that you're not an ideal match.


8. There Are Little To No Drugs/Alcohol Involved

People tend to loosen up when they're tipsy, so don't confuse a drunk conversation for reality. Once the alcohol wears off, he may not feel playful or flirty with you at all. You might have just gotten along with the liquor in him and not the real him.

9. You're Laughing With, Not At

When you laugh while conversing with him, it indicates that things are going well. It demonstrates that you're having a good time. Life is already stressful enough, so you don't want to look for someone who will only add to your worries. I don't mean that everything should be humorous, and there's certainly room for serious topics, but there must be a balance, and he shouldn't be the cause of your serious demeanor.