To promote gender equality, it's crucial to recognize that men can also be financially motivated in relationships. However, society has not traditionally been vigilant against male "gold diggers." It's time for this to change. Here are some indicators to watch for in a potential partner.
1. He's dressed like he's already rich
Individuals who prioritize wealth but lack it may try to appear wealthy. This person may dress in expensive clothing in order to give the impression that they have financial means. They may believe that this will attract individuals with money, as they can relate to the appearance of wealth. However, it's important to note that this behavior could be a sign that they are a "gold digger" trying to disguise their true intentions.
2. His car is expensive/fancy
It's important to remember that just because a man has a luxury car, it doesn't necessarily indicate that he can afford it. It could be a rental, borrowed or purchased through debt. It is also possible that the person aspires to a certain lifestyle and is trying to attract a partner who can financially support it. Therefore, it's important not to be deceived by appearances, and to consider the possibility that the car may not be a reflection of the person's true financial situation.
3. Your job piques his interest
Women should be cautious when a man starts showering them with attention after learning about their high-income job. Like women, male gold diggers are skilled at identifying individuals with financial wealth. If a man's interest in a woman seems to increase solely after learning about her financial status, it's likely that he is a gold digger.
4. He asks about your family right away
During the early stages of a relationship, it is not typical for a man to be overly interested in a woman's family. If a man is quick to inquire about her parents, their location and occupation, it may be a sign that he is trying to determine if the woman comes from a financially well-off family. A man's initial interest in a woman should be focused on her, not her family.
5. He asks for your pin number
It is unlikely that a gold digger will directly ask for a person's bank pin number, as they often use subtle methods. If a man becomes overly eager to accompany someone to the ATM or attempts to gain access to their bank account, it may be a sign that they are trying to access their finances. This behavior should be viewed with suspicion, as it is not typical for someone to be particularly eager to run errands for their partner. This behavior could be a sign that the person is a gold digger.
6. He encourages lavish spending
Gold diggers often wish to use someone else's finances to purchase luxurious items. Even if the person is buying something for themselves, a gold digger may push them to make an expensive purchase. They want to live a lavish lifestyle and may try to make the other person believe that they can have that lifestyle with them, even if it is at the expense of the other person's finances.
7. He finds ways to skip out on the bill
In the beginning stages of a relationship, it is common for men to want to pay for dinners and drinks, however, a gold digger will often try to avoid paying for these expenses. They may forget their wallet, use the restroom when the check comes, or find other ways to avoid paying. Keep in mind that gold diggers are often cunning and will attempt to find ways to have others pay for things.
8. His charm goes away
Unfortunately, gold diggers often possess charm and charisma, making them skilled at interacting with women. They may initially come across as likable, but as the relationship progresses and they sense that the other person is invested, the charm may fade and their true intentions may become clear. They may prioritize spending money, particularly the other person's money, and may believe that by solidifying the relationship it will be harder for the other person to leave. If someone suspects that they may be involved with a gold digger, it's important to trust their instincts and to be vigilant for any signs that may indicate that the person's intentions are not genuine.
9. He's OK with not working
Many men prioritize their careers and are motivated to find work if they are unemployed. They may feel upset and frustrated if they are out of the workforce for an extended period. However, a gold digger may not have the same sense of urgency to find a job and may be content to rely on their partner's financial support. If a man is not making an effort to find employment and is content to live off their partner's income, it could be a sign that they are a gold digger.
10. He wants you to buy things "for us"
This is a classic tactic used by gold diggers. While couples may purchase items such as cars or TVs together, if a person pushes their partner to buy something that primarily benefits them, it could be a red flag. A gold digger may try to convince their partner to make expensive purchases simply because they can afford it. If they use language such as "for us" to justify the purchase, it may indicate that they are only interested in the person for their financial resources.