Although I don't encourage playing games or using manipulation in relationships, it's important to stand up for yourself if your boyfriend is taking you for granted. If you feel unappreciated or unwanted, remember that you have the freedom to leave at any time, especially if you're not married. If you want to remind your partner that you have a choice and make him aware of the possibility of losing you, here are some actions you could consider.
1. Talk about a future without him
To create a sense of uncertainty and make your partner aware that he's not guaranteed a place in your future plans, try using "I" instead of "we" when discussing upcoming events. This can be as simple as talking about a weekend trip without mentioning him as part of the plan. Although it's a subtle change, most partners should notice it and become aware of the possibility of not being included in your future plans.
2. Cut back on texting
While we appreciate how much many women like to text, frequent messaging can reveal your level of interest and commitment in the relationship. By reducing the amount of texting and not always initiating the conversation, you may cause your partner to question why. This may encourage him to take a more active role in the relationship, or he might think that you have other important priorities and become more interested in you.
3. Flirt with other guys in front of him
I want to preface this by acknowledging that what I'm about to suggest may be considered cruel, even if it can be effective. Watching their girlfriend flirt with or show interest in other guys is something that few men enjoy, especially if they have feelings for their partner. While it's important to keep this in mind, it can also be an effective way to convey your message. Although it may hurt your partner deeply, it will also make him aware that you're not fully committed to the relationship.
4. Stop being needy
As a rule, it's best to avoid being too needy in a relationship. However, if your partner is accustomed to you being very affectionate and that behavior suddenly changes, he will likely take notice. Unless he's completely disengaged, he will recognize that you're not as dependent on him as before and may start to question your level of commitment to the relationship.
5. Make new friends
A supportive boyfriend usually becomes at ease with your friends, but if you begin making new ones, he might feel like he's losing you. Perhaps one of your new friends is male or will introduce you to someone new. Regardless, it's a significant change in your life that can cause your partner to think that you're transitioning to a different phase of your life, which could make him feel like he's at risk of losing you.
6. Take care of yourself
While it's important for our own health and wellness, maintaining a fit and healthy body can also be a way to make your partner aware of the possibility of losing you. It's natural to become a little more relaxed about your appearance when you get comfortable in a relationship. However, consistently exercising and taking care of yourself can signal the opposite. Your partner may begin to think that you're preparing for a future without him.
7. Appear bored when he talks
I should preface this by saying that what I'm about to suggest may be considered unkind and is not a healthy behavior in a relationship. Nonetheless, if you appear uninterested when your partner shares a story or talks about their day, it can make them question their value to you and the state of your relationship. While he may not necessarily assume that you're going to leave him for someone else, he may begin to worry that something is amiss.
8. Be confident
Being confident and comfortable in your own skin is always a winning move for any woman. When a woman exudes confidence, her partner will be at least a little bit concerned about losing her. Consequently, he'll feel that he needs to demonstrate that he's deserving of her. This comes, in part, from his fear of losing her. If you show confidence and are comfortable in your own skin, your partner will assume that you have other options, and he'll work harder to keep you.