Getting ghosted by a guy you've been hanging out with for months can be extremely frustrating in modern dating. It's not only cowardly but also embarrassing. However, it's essential to remember that this is not your fault, and it's his problem. It's natural to feel angry and hurt because of the lack of closure. You can use this experience to ensure that he doesn't repeat this behavior with anyone else. Here's how you can make him regret ghosting you and wish he had never done so.
1. Live your best life
While it may sound like advice straight out of a high school guidance counselor's office, there's a reason why the cliche "show them what they're missing" is so popular. Use this opportunity as a fresh start to reflect on what you've been missing and grow as a person. Identify your goals and pursue them, whether it's going out and having fun with friends or focusing on personal development. Don't waste any more time on someone who has ghosted you. Remember, the best defense is a good offense. Don't contact him or dwell on him, just focus on yourself in a way that he never did.
2. Get therapy
Instead of dwelling on the situation, consider taking a step you've been contemplating for years but never acted on. Reflect on the underlying issues that have affected your relationships, including ways in which you may have contributed to the breakup. While he's at fault for ghosting you, it takes two to make a relationship work. Focus on becoming more self-aware and well-rounded while he continues in his toxic patterns. Putting in the effort to grow will benefit you far more in the long run.
3. Have a girls' weekend
This is not only important but also downright therapeutic. It's an effective way to push the guy out of your mind and focus on enjoying your life. Spend time catching up with your friends, relaxing, and having fun. Allow yourself to feel carefree and lighthearted, like a teenager again. Maybe your teenage years weren't the best, but you can still have a good time. Plan a trip out of town with your friends, solely for the purpose of enjoying each other's company without discussing work or other serious topics. Just good vibes and good times.
4. Don't be shy on insta
Depending on how vindictive or wronged you feel, you could consider spamming his Instagram. Especially if you notice him continuously checking your stories. Why not give him a taste of his own medicine? Get your friends together and come up with creative captions and angles. Don't hold back - he didn't.
5. Do all the things you never did together
Sometimes, it's only after leaving a toxic relationship that we realize how unhealthy it truly was. Looking back, you might wonder why you allowed him to control your diet and spent Sundays freezing while he hung out with his friends. But it's not your fault. Perhaps he had his reasons for ghosting you, but you'll eventually see all the ways the relationship didn't work for you. Take back your hobbies and indulge your impulses without remorse.
6. Block him
It's as simple as that. After getting your Instagram fix, there may be a lull following the high. Once you've had your revenge, you might appreciate taking a break from the social scene. Keep things mysterious and give yourself a break. Time and space away from the public eye can work wonders.
7. Experiment
Now that we've established what you don't want in a relationship, it's time to consider what you do want. To truly identify your desires, you must take action. Take risks, be spontaneous, and let others surprise you (while still being safe and letting your friends know where you're going).
8. Cast the blame where it belongs
It's common to question if something you did, said, or your personal qualities caused the breakup. You may feel that you weren't good enough. However, the truth is that it has nothing to do with you. The responsibility lies with the person who ended the relationship and couldn't communicate like an adult. The initial step towards healing is to stop making excuses for them and refrain from self-blame. It's important to avoid putting yourself down with guilt.
9. Don't chase after him
It's natural to desire closure, but it's crucial to acknowledge that you may never receive an explanation for their departure. Therefore, if they haven't responded to your messages or calls, it's best to refrain from constantly sending messages or calling. Continuously reaching out could make you appear desperate, needy, or powerless, which is the last thing you want.
10. Change your perspective
A failed relationship can also be viewed as a successful one because it means you successfully dodged a bullet. Despite being ghosted, it's essential to start considering the possibility that your ghost boyfriend may have done you a favor. You no longer have to deal with him, and this is an opportunity for you to learn and grow, so seize it.
11. Purge him from your life and your thoughts
Dealing with ghosting can be challenging, particularly when it comes to moving on and learning from the experience. To break free from thoughts of the person who has ghosted you, a useful strategy is to act as if they never existed. You can start by deleting their contact information, which can decrease the likelihood of contacting them. Additionally, you may consider blocking them on social media and anywhere else where their presence may be felt. Finally, it can be helpful to remove any physical reminders of the person to aid in your healing process.
12. Don't let him know he's gotten to you
Avoid displaying anger or inquiring about his ghosting as it may be a psychological ploy. He may have left to test your reaction, and becoming angry may give him gratification. Instead, it's time to take charge. If you ever encounter him again, be courteous, and refrain from sending him inebriated messages expressing your disdain.
13. Ignore him
Ghosters may attempt to reappear discreetly by liking your social media posts, sending messages, or leaving comments. If this occurs, pretend not to have noticed and avoid being swayed by the renewed attention. Instead, reciprocate the same treatment by showing him that you are too occupied to take notice.
14. Show him what he's missing
Although he left, it doesn't mean your happiness or life should come to a halt. Show him that you're moving on by sharing happy pictures on your social media status. Even if you've blocked him, ghosters may still find ways to keep tabs on you, or he may hear from someone else. So let him know that you're happy and beautiful regardless.
15. Do what you love
Devote your time to hobbies and activities that bring you joy. Relationships can be time-consuming, but being single again gives you the opportunity to rediscover the things you love to do. If you've been interested in learning something new, now is the ideal moment to pursue it!
16. Go on dates
Start dating if you feel ready. Perhaps there's a guy interested in taking you out to lunch. Don't let your past experiences hold you back, and don't make your ex the sole reason for dating someone new. However, going out on a date can also be an opportunity for your own personal enjoyment.
17. Don't drop your standards
Clear boundaries are crucial for healthy relationships. If you've established good limits, stick to them. Don't compromise them for anyone, including your ex. Always prioritize what's important to you and do what's best for yourself.
18. Practice mindfulness
You're not alone in being ghosted, as research shows that 13-23% of people in the US have experienced it. Don't waste your emotions on someone who disappeared like a ghost. Practice mindfulness to manage your feelings and reduce stress, anxiety, and depression. Take time to build resilience and keep your focus on your goals.
