How-To

How To Lighten Up & Stop Taking Everything So Seriously

It may seem odd, but sometimes adopting a more laid-back approach can help when dealing with heavy situations. This is not to suggest that there will not be challenging issues that challenge your resilience and endurance, but no matter what obstacles you encounter, it's important to take a moment to pause and breathe. Rather than dwelling on negative emotions, try to let go of that mindset and try to have a more positive outlook. It may be easier said than done, but here are some suggestions to help you get there.

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1. Think About The Worst Case Scenario

It's important to keep in mind that often, the situation may not be as dire as it initially seems. An example of this is when you are feeling overwhelmed about paying rent on time. It's important to remember that the worst-case scenario is likely not as dire as you imagine. You may have to borrow money from your parents, but it's unlikely that you will be evicted and lose your entire means of livelihood overnight.

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2. Smile More

It may seem trivial, but scientific research has shown that even forcing a smile when you don't feel like it can improve your mood. A simple solution is to smile at yourself every time you look in the mirror if the idea of smiling at every person you encounter seems too daunting.

3. Look For The Humor In The Crappy Stuff

Instead of getting frustrated when you find yourself stuck in traffic, try to look at the situation from a different perspective. Consider the oddity of the situation - thousands of people are all sitting in their cars, not moving, and perhaps someone has even taken the opportunity to sunbathe on the roof of their vehicle. It's a strange but true scenario that can be amusing to think about.

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4. Be In The Moment

When you are enjoying leisure activities, try to focus on the present moment and not let thoughts about your responsibilities the next day consume your mind. Remember that the purpose of these activities is to have fun, so make the most of it and enjoy the moment.

5. Get Stuff Done

It's easy to get caught up in worrying about things that we can handle. Instead of worrying, take action by completing tasks such as paying bills, returning phone calls, taking vitamins, and starting work projects well in advance of their deadlines. By taking care of these responsibilities, you will find that there is less to worry about and you can focus on other aspects of your life.

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6. Don't Take On Other People's Problems

It's important to be a supportive friend and be there for the people in your life when they need you. However, it's also important not to take on too much of their stress and internalize it as your own. Remember that they come to you for a listening ear and a stabilizing presence, not for you to add to their stress. Be there for them, but also be mindful of your well-being.

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7. Stop Watching The News

Another way of dealing with stress is to reduce the amount of negative news and information that you consume. While it's important to stay informed about current events, it's not necessary to be constantly updated on every tragic or disturbing story from around the world, especially if it doesn't directly affect your life.

8. Keep Your Perspective

When you are feeling overwhelmed by the responsibilities of being a maid of honor, try to shift your perspective. Instead of focusing on the stress, try to see the bigger picture. Your friend has chosen you to be one of the most important people in their special day, which is an honor and a privilege. Even though it may come with added responsibilities, try to remember that it is a positive and meaningful experience to be a part of.

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9. Give Up Perfectionism

It's important to remember that weight gain is a normal part of life and it's not always visible to others. Even if it was, it's not their concern. By reducing the pressure you put on yourself to be perfect, you may find that you naturally perform better in all areas of your life.

10. Spend Some Time Outside

Being in awe of the natural world can give one a sense of perspective, and make one realize that they are not the most important thing in existence.

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11. Take Care Of Your Body

Anxiety can thrive in bodies that are in poor health, due to factors such as chronic inflammation, overeating, lack of sleep, and excessive work. By addressing these issues one at a time and making positive changes, one may see a significant improvement in their mental well-being.

12. Stop Trying To Please Everyone

It is not possible to satisfy everyone, so it's not worth trying. The most important thing is to be kind and do your best, that's all you can do.

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13. Reflect On Where You've Come From

It's important to remember that many of the things you possess today were once aspirations, and it's vital to keep that in mind before complaining about the unfairness of life. Your current self is a great success in the eyes of your 13-year-old self.