You can’t just babble all the things you want from a relationship. Instead, enjoy your dates while digging into his mind.
Ask! What are his plans for the future, his hobbies, does he have nephews and nieces? Is he close to his family?
There’s no foolproof list of questions, but there is something just as useful.
When you’re “interrogating” him, ask yourself which questions would you like to hear from the other side. And think about your tone, posture, and everything in between.
Set Boundaries but be flexible
You can’t play the game for too long. For one thing, he’ll see through you. And, if you’re playing, you don’t deserve better.
That’s why it’s important to vocalize your personal boundaries, what’s acceptable, and where you draw the line.
If you don’t want an open relationship, say it. And if it is essential to you, then what’s the point of hiding it? To a certain extent, honesty is necessary, even when you’re still not in a committed relationship.
In a way, training a man is a bit similar to training a dog. Don’t believe me? Check out the classic Hollywood movie “If A Man Answers”! It’s about training a husband, and it’s insanely accurate!
Listen, but he heard
As you get the information from him, assure him that you are listening. And you want nothing less from him.
When you’re actually listening, he won’t be afraid to open up.
Many guys are looking for a serious relationship, but the lack of communication brings us to meaningless friendships with benefits and relationships where there are no plans for the future.