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How To Get Your Ex To Text You

Over time, people tend to forget the reasons behind their breakups with their exes. It could be a small disagreement that escalated or unresolved issues that couldn't be resolved. Regardless of the cause, it's natural to want to reconnect, even if reconciliation is not the goal. If you're hesitant to initiate contact, here are some ways to get your ex to text you.

1. Post your sexiest selfie

An effective way to attract messages is to post a flattering selfie. You can either use a previously unseen photo or take advantage of the opportunity to take a new, professionally done one. Your ex will likely be reminded of what initially attracted them to you once they see your attractive appearance in the photo.

2. Start texting his friend

One way to indirectly get your ex's attention is to start flirting with one of their friends via text. However, be mindful of the potential consequences as this may not result in the friendly message you were hoping for. Additionally, it is important to note that this method is not appropriate if you do not have genuine feelings for their friend.

3. Make it crystal clear that you're single

If you want to make it clear that you are single and open to dating, use various hints to indicate this. Change your Facebook status or Instagram bio to "single." Post about being open to finding someone new. By doing this, your ex may think that there is a chance for reconciliation between the two of you.

4. Pretend to butt dial his number

Making a "mistaken" call and hanging up or letting the phone ring without answering can be a way to prompt your ex to reach out to you. They may text you asking what the call was about, providing an opportunity to start a conversation. However, it's important to keep in mind that lying, regardless of how small it may seem, can have negative consequences in any relationship.

5. Apologize for what you did wrong

If the relationship ended on a negative note, it may be necessary to make the first move in rebuilding a connection before expecting him to initiate contact. If you are aware that you made a mistake or if your ex believes that you did, take responsibility for it and apologize. Express your willingness to move forward and make amends. It is unlikely that your ex will reach out to you first if there is unresolved tension between you.

6. Send a single emoji

Sending a single, ambiguous emoji can be an effective way to catch your ex's attention. Be mindful of the emoji you choose, as it should not be something that can be misinterpreted or misconstrued as flirtatious. A wave or winky face may prompt your ex to reply asking for clarification, opening the door for a conversation.

7. Arrange to hang out in a group

A natural way to rekindle communication with your ex over text is by first breaking the ice in person. Have mutual friends arrange a group hangout with both of your friend circles. The larger the group, the less obvious it will be that you are trying to reconnect with your ex. If the meeting goes well, they may initiate contact through text, expressing how great it was to see you again.

8. Create a new social media page

Creating a new Instagram or revamping your Facebook can be a way to get your ex's attention by sending a friend or follow request. This will help your name to reappear on their radar and, if you post attractive photos on the new page, it may make them forget the reasons for the breakup. However, it's important to keep in mind that using superficial means such as this to try to win someone back may not lead to a healthy or genuine connection.

9. Spread the word that you want him

Utilize your social circle to your advantage by expressing to friends or acquaintances that you still have feelings for your ex. This information will likely reach your ex eventually, giving them the incentive and confidence to reach out and ask if it is true. However, it is important to be aware that spreading personal information in this way may not be viewed positively and it could lead to further complications in your relationship.

10. Text him first

In today's age, taking initiative and being direct is often the most effective approach, including when it comes to reaching out to an ex. If your hints have not been successful in prompting a response from your ex, consider sending them a message. You can choose to be bold and flirtatious or take a more subtle approach by asking a question or inquiring about their well-being. Keep in mind that if the breakup was particularly contentious, your ex may not be willing to reply.