Nobody enjoys breaking up. Even with all the evidence showing it’s the best thing to do, the pain of going through a breakup is something we’d all like to avoid.
Breakups Are Even Harder When You Made A Perfect Couple
But that was then.
At some point, then the relationship stopped working, and you had to call off the whole thing.
You have had time to think things over, and you believe you might have thrown in the towel too soon. You would like to have another go at the relationship.
And you have made a few attempts to get back together. But your efforts always end in an argument.
So, how do you get back with your ex without arguing? Here are some tips.
1. Try To Understand Your Ex
We are notorious for assuming we know what other people think or have to say, especially when we have known them for so long.
But come on! If you knew your partner so well, why did you break up?
Usually, we understand other people the way we want to, not the way they would like to be understood or they should be understood.
We imagine we know their intentions and needs.
So, this time round, make sure you understand your ex’s point of view. Ask for clarifications if it comes to that.
2. Give Your Ex Time
Your ex needs time to think things over, just as you have. It may have taken you a shorter time to figure out you want to be in a relationship with them again, but it could be different with them.
If you suggest getting back together before they are ready, you will seem needy or pushy, neither of which will help the situation.
Also, you don’t want to wait too long and make it seem like you don’t care. Based on how well you know your ex, you should be able to know how much time you need before calling them up again with the suggestion to get together.
3. Stay Focused And Calm
Relationships are emotional, and remaining rational can be hard, especially when the stakes are so high. Nonetheless, you have to remain in control of yourself, even when things seem not to be going your way.
This means refraining from making any attacks and being patient enough to hear them out as they voice their concerns.
4. Promise To Talk Without Losing Control
If you are prone to arguing, then odds of getting into an argument will be very high, especially when both or none of you is not getting their way. Agree to resist the urge to argue and blame each other. You might not be doing it on purpose, but that does not mean it will not harm your efforts to get back together.
With these tips, getting back together with your ex will be much easier, and with no arguments ruining the experience.