Forgetting someone that you cared deeply about is not at all easy. Sometimes, it takes a lot longer because we don’t want to forget that person who resides in our hearts.
But if you’re reading this article, you want to forget. Fortunately, it is possible and we’ll give you 10 ways to do so.
We can go on about how wonderful it was to fall in love in the first place and how things were awesome until it all went south. Now you’re stuck in sorrow but hope to move on.
But we won’t tell you because you know all that already. You’ve lived it. Instead, we’ll get right into how you can go about forgetting that certain someone and finding happiness on your own once again.
Moving On Is Not Easy
It is possible to move on after a heartbreak, but it’s definitely not easy or simple. There are a fortunate few who seem to bounce back easily after a breakup. For the rest of us, it takes some time.
You can seek the help of a professional to help you learn to handle your emotions. But if you don’t have time or money for that, we’ve got some advice for you.
Addressing your feelings is important. You should not ignore how you feel, even if you’re scared of admitting how hurt you are.
Pain is a natural but unfortunate part of healing after losing a loved one. If your emotions and feelings go unaddressed, it could have serious repercussions in your life. You could end up with depression.
Also, when you do meet someone new, you will be left with ‘baggage’ that could negatively affect your new relationships.
So, without further ado, let’s see how we can help you start your journey towards healing and moving on.
1. Go Through The Motions
Don’t try to ignore the pain you’re feeling – it won’t go away if you do. One of the first things you need to do let yourself feel all the emotions that are going on inside.
Don’t let your negative feelings rule your life, but don’t think they’ll disappear if you don’t acknowledge them.
When you face what you feel, you will be able to process everything with more control.
Doing this will not be easy, and it will not be comfortable. It will not be pretty. But it has to be done.
It is never fun to deal with regret, sadness, or anger. But if you want to heal, it is a necessity.
2. Don’t Rush Things
Getting over someone takes time – you’ll achieve nothing if you try to rush your healing process.
Most people’s first reaction is to want to forget as fast as possible but that’s not a good idea. It is only natural to want to feel better, but you have to trust the process.
The process will be slow and gradual but you’ll be grateful for the better sense of closure.
For some, it takes years to fully recover. If that’s you, don’t worry. You will get there eventually, just allow yourself to actually feel your emotions.
Everything that you’re going through now will be over and you will feel better.
3. Pen Your Feelings
It may seem like a minor thing, but writing down your feelings can really help you to work through them.
You don’t have to be an exceptional writer to do this. It’s all about being honest and open about what’s going on inside you.
For many people, it is easy to deny their feelings because they don’t admit them. And saying them out loud feels like defeat. That’s why writing down your feelings is a good way to really face what you’re feeling without a sense of losing control.
Once you’ve got it all written down, you will have a stronger sense of power over them. It can also be a therapeutic way of dealing with your emotions.
4. Be Honest About Your Relationship
It is easy to remember only the good things about a relationship when it’s over. We tend to conveniently forget all the bad things, longing for what we had when we were happy.
This is a mistake.
You have to be honest about what your relationship was and why it came to an end. Don’t delude yourself into thinking everything was perfect.
You will miss something that didn’t even exist in the first place.
5. Focus On You
When you’re getting over a failed relationship, there is a lot of time for introspection. Although you want to focus on the person you miss, you should be focusing on yourself.
You have to focus on yourself throughout the moving on process. You have to be your own first priority.
Do things that are fun for you. Indulge in your pleasures and find new hobbies to make yourself smile a little bit.
Find new passions and read new books. Watch the movies you wanted to but didn’t. Find joy in spending time on your own and enjoy your own company.
6. Deal With Your Grief
At this point, you know that your relationship is over – there is no going back. That loss is real and intense.
You need to deal with that loss in a healthy manner. Don’t let your sorrow drown you and take over your life. It is easy for one to let their pain lead them down a path of destruction.
Don’t do that to yourself.
Address your grief and deal with it constructively. How that happens will be different for every person. Find your ways and use them. Deal with your emotions and do it in a healthy way.
7. Don’t Hang Around Your Ex
You can’t spend time with the person that broke your heart. You will never properly heal if you do that.
Get rid of reminders of what you had. Replace them with new and exciting things.
Remember that the person you’re leaving behind has nothing to do with your healing process – it’s all about you and all up to you.
8. Start Dating Again
It is important that you take your time with this. Don’t just jump back into the dating pool to forget the person you miss.
Rebounds are often suggested but they’re not fair to you or the person you’re using. It’s not healthy to rebound with a new person.
Be sure that you are emotionally and mentally ready for something new. If you’re not, stay single. Enjoy life on your own.
If you are ready, take things slow and make sure the other person knows you don’t want to move too fast.
Remember to not let your experience with your ex influence how your new relationships grow.
9. Get Help
Do not be afraid to ask for help. Sometimes, it is just not possible to cope on your own. That’s okay.
There is no shame in asking for help. In fact, it comes highly recommended if you need it. You can lean on friends or a professional.
Having a support system is a great way to help you move on with your life and grow as a person.
10. Let Time Heal Your Wounds
It sounds like a cliché but letting time help heal your wounds is a good idea. As time goes on, you will become stronger and the pain will be less intense.
How much time it takes to move on is different for everyone. Don’t feel like you should be at a certain place after a certain amount of time.
Let time run its course and go with it. Take things as slowly or as fast as you need to. You are the one who knows what’s best for you, at the end of the day.
And if you’re not okay after a few months, that’s not the end of the world. Just let things take their natural course and allow your heart to heal as it sees fit.
There you go – 10 ways that will help you move on after your heart was broken. You can use all of the tips or only a few of them. It’s up to you.