How To Deal With Jealousy

How To Deal With Jealousy

Jealousy, or as we like to call it, the green-eyed monster, is very common. And don't think you are safe from its claws if you don't feel it. Having a jealous partner is worth worrying about.

An Unhealthy Dose Of Jealousy Can Even Ruin Your Relationship

Speaking of which, there are various kinds of jealousy. And if you suspect that this emotion is weighing on your relationship, you better get right ahead of it and find out the breed of jealousy plaguing you.

God help partners who readily admit to being jealous. Unfortunately for them, it might be impossible to cure them of the emotion.

Some Have Jealousy In Their Genes, But Will Deny It To The Point Of Death

What you get instead is anger, moodiness, depression and good ol' withdrawal.

Then we have the jealousy brought about by circumstances. Here, you or your partner feel jealous over something either of you has done.

Let's have a closer look at this brand of jealousy.

First, it comes from a point of distrust or fear. Maybe you lied or cheated, and the trust your partner had in your took a nosedive.

But this form of jealousy might have nothing to do with distrust. Maybe you love your partner more than you have ever loved anyone. The fear of losing that person will manifest itself as jealousy.

You Have To Be Careful Not To Blame Your Partner Unfairly

And even when coming clean about it, don't make it a burden your partner.

Sure, they might have to step up and reassure you of their commitment to you, but don't take it out on them. It's not fair.

Some people may mess up here. They begin by restricting their partners or making unusual demands. They might even make unreasonable demands for information just to calm their jealous feelings.

Things can even get out of hand and turn into abuse.

However Deeply You Love Someone, You Have To Let Them Be

You cannot treat them as your possession. The result will be the complete opposite because the person will withdraw from you.

We All Need Time With Friends And With Ourselves

You cannot spend time with your partner around the clock.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to spend as much time with your partner as you can. But it has to come from the right place, not jealousy.

Good and valuable times cannot be forced. But even so, give each other some space in the relationship.

But if the jealousy in your relationship proves too much for you to handle, you can always talk to a counselor rather than wait until it destroys your relationship.