In an ideal world, the guys we are interested in would intuitively know how we feel and a relationship would start naturally. Unfortunately, that is not always the case. If you want to start a relationship with him, you will have to take the initiative and ask him to be your boyfriend. It can be intimidating, but with the right attitude and some courage, you can confidently make your feelings known and start a relationship without feeling desperate or overwhelmed.
1. Let go of the stereotypes
If you decide to ask a guy out, be confident and direct. Don't beat around the bush or make him guess what you want. Make sure you look him in the eye, stand up straight, and be clear about what you're asking. If you show him you're not afraid to take the initiative, he'll be more likely to say yes. And remember, even if he says no, it doesn't mean he doesn't like you. It just means he isn't interested in the same thing. So be brave, and go for it!
2. Know what you really want
Before entering into a romantic relationship with someone, it is important to take a step back and reflect on what you want out of that partnership. Ask yourself if you are truly ready to commit to this person, or if you just feel pressured to do so. Do you really love this person and feel a genuine connection with them, or are you only attracted to them? Are you entering into a relationship simply to prove that you can have them, or because you have truly fallen for them? Taking the time to consider these important questions can help you make sure that you are entering into a relationship for the right reasons.
3. Look for signs that he's interested in you
If you already know him and the signals he is sending suggest that he might be interested, you should still take things slowly. Ask him out on a date and gauge his response. If he seems interested, talk to him about what a relationship would look like. If you're both on the same page, then go for it! Just make sure you're both clear on what you're looking for out of the relationship.
4. Find the right time
It is not advisable to ask a guy to be your boyfriend in the middle of sex or immediately afterward. Doing so can make him feel pressured to agree to your request, either to preserve the mood or spare your ego. Furthermore, it is best to avoid asking someone to be your boyfriend on important days like Valentine's Day or your birthday. To ensure the best results, choose a non-threatening, low-stakes time to ask him to be your boyfriend.
5. Pick the right place
Choose a place that is special to both of you, or a quiet spot where you can talk without distractions. Consider a peaceful outdoor setting, a cozy corner of a cafe, or a romantic restaurant. Make sure you have privacy and the opportunity to have an intimate conversation. Be sure to make it clear that the purpose of your meeting is to talk, not to make a relationship announcement.
6. Avoid doing it over the phone
Rather than taking the easy way out by calling or sending him a text, you should tell him in person how you feel. This will convey the seriousness and the bravery of your request, as well as your nervousness and excitement. Furthermore, you will be able to see his reaction and interpret his body language to get a better sense of his response.
7. Open up to him about your feelings
Explain to him that you appreciate and admire him and that you want to be in a relationship with him. Be clear and honest about your feelings and intentions. Tell him what he means to you and why you want to be together. Ask him if he wants to be your boyfriend and see how he responds. Don't be afraid to be open and direct in expressing your emotions and desires.
8. Let him have time to think about it
It's alright if he isn't ready to accept your offer for a romantic ride into the sunset immediately. Understand that he might not have thought about the possibility of a relationship with you up to that point and he may need some time to think it through before giving a response. Give him a few days or weeks to decide, but do not allow him to keep you waiting endlessly.
9. Be prepared for rejection
No matter how much you want it, you cannot expect to receive a positive response just because you expressed your desire for a relationship. Be ready for the possibility that he might not want to pursue a romantic relationship with you. This rejection should not affect your self-esteem. If you are curious about his decision, you can ask him why he is not interested, but do not take his response to heart. It is better to attempt to find out what could have been than to live with the regret of not trying. Accept the outcome without feeling discouraged.
