It can be challenging to understand someone's feelings through text, especially when using a dating app or preparing for a blind date. To gauge a man's interest, pay attention to the messages he sends or doesn't send. If he communicates in these ways, it's a positive sign.
1. They Text First Thing In The Morning
Men don't send "good morning" texts unless they have strong feelings for you. Receiving a message like this means that you were one of the first things on his mind when he woke up and he wants you to be aware of it. If that's not romantic, what is?
2. They Respond Quickly
He's not waiting a long time to respond to your texts unless he's busy. In other words, he's not ignoring you to try to appear more desirable. If he likes you, he's not engaging in immature behavior.
3. They Send A Bunch Of Emojis
It varies from man to man, but if a guy starts using more emojis, it's likely a sign that he's falling for you. Sending emojis is a flirty way to communicate, similar to sending flowers. (Note: This may be a millennial perspective.)
4. They Talk About Themselves
Contrary to what some people may think, it's important for a man to talk about himself to some extent so you can get to know him as a person. If he answers questions ambiguously, he may not be genuine and may not be interested in you. If he provides detailed information, it's a sign that he is really into you.
5. They Keep The Conversation Moving
He doesn't want the conversation to end, which is why he keeps asking questions even when you respond with a single word. He wants to get to know you and keep you interested in him. He's making it clear that he wants to talk to you all day.
6. They Double Text
You didn't respond to his text message quickly? He doesn't hesitate to send another message to keep the conversation going. This means he really likes you. Most people avoid double texting because it can make them appear vulnerable. The fact that he doesn't mind shows his maturity and that he likes you enough not to be self-conscious about his texting habits.
7. They Hit You Up With Their Favorite Memes
If a guy sends you a funny meme or tags you in one, it's a good sign that he's into you. He wants to make you laugh and find ways to connect with you beyond just texting. Memes are a playful way to show interest and brighten your day.
More Ways Guys Text When They Like You
1. They Compliment You
It's common for both men and women to give empty compliments, so it's important to pay attention to the specific content of the compliment. If a man is complimenting your physical appearance, it may not be a genuine expression of his feelings. On the other hand, if his compliments are focused on your personality, it's a good indication that he genuinely likes you. This is because he values who you are as a person and is interested in getting to know you better.
2. They Haven't Talked About Sex
Don't be mistaken if a guy you barely know is texting you about sex or making explicit requests. It's a clear indication that he's only interested in physical intimacy. This kind of behavior is disrespectful and shows a lack of genuine interest in getting to know you as a person. A man who genuinely likes you will take the time to get to know you and will be more respectful in his communication. Flirting is one thing, but being inappropriate or aggressive is not a sign of genuine interest.
3. They Ask Personal Questions
If a guy is asking you personal questions and trying to get to know you on a deeper level, it's a good sign that he's interested in you and not just looking for physical intimacy. He wants to understand your thoughts, feelings, and passions and is taking the time to connect with you emotionally. According to certified counselor and dating expert Jonathan Bennett, "if a guy is really into you, your texting conversations will be deeper and more meaningful." Pay attention to the overall tone and content of your conversations to get a sense of whether he's genuinely interested in getting to know you.
4. They're Different Than Your Friends
One way to tell if a guy is interested in you romantically is to compare the way he texts you to the way he texts your friends. Does he use more emojis or affectionate language when messaging you? Does he ask you more personal or thoughtful questions? Does he use pet names or terms of endearment? If his messages to you stand out in comparison to the way he communicates with your friends, it's a sign that he sees you as more than just a buddy. When a guy is interested in a woman romantically, he will often text her differently than he does his male friends, using language and behavior that is more affectionate and intimate
5. They Make Plans
A man who is interested in you will not only text you but will also make an effort to see you in person. If he is constantly texting you but never making plans to hang out and you feel you're in a "relationship", you most likely have it wrong. It's important to have in-person interactions and spend time together without the distractions of electronics. If a guy is making an effort to make plans with you and spend time together in person, it's a good sign that he is interested in you and wants to take the relationship beyond just texting.
6. They Actually Communicate When They're Going To Be Busy
Guys who are truly interested in you will make an effort to communicate and keep you informed, even if they are busy or things are hectic. This shows that they care about you and value the relationship. As a licensed marriage and family therapist, Virginia Williamson points out, "this is an indicator of consideration for you and that again affirms that the connection is important. They may not want you to get the wrong impression if they are out of touch."
7. They Tell You Straight-up That They Like You
If a guy expresses his feelings for you over text, it's important to believe him and trust his words. While it's understandable to be cautious and verify his feelings in person, it's important to start the relationship on a foundation of trust. Don't automatically assume he is lying, but rather give him the benefit of the doubt and see where things go. If everything checks out, you can feel confident in moving forward with the relationship.
You Know How Guys Text When They Like You, But How Should You Text Them?
Understanding how guys text when they like you can make it easier to know how to respond and let them know that your feelings are mutual. However, if you need some guidance, here are a few tips to keep in mind:
1. Develop Your Own Inside Jokes
Sharing a sense of humor and laughing together can be a great way to strengthen your connection with someone. Exchanging memes or talking about your favorite TV shows can be a fun way to bond, but you can also create your own inside jokes that will bring you closer together. As psychologist Chloe Carmichael points out, "starting an inside joke and understanding how to gently tease over text is an art—and a nice way to keep things feeling light-hearted. The woman doesn't necessarily put herself out there too much either." She adds, "plus, by being lighthearted you make it easy for someone to have a back and forth with you without feeling overwhelmed or concerned about obligations."
2. Don't Beat Around The Bush
When texting someone you like, it's important to be clear and direct about your feelings and intentions. Don't be too hesitant or vague, as this may give the impression that you are not interested. On the other hand, don't come on too strong before you know that your feelings are mutual. A good approach is to be straightforward and ask your crush out on a date. This shows confidence and makes it clear that you are interested in pursuing a romantic relationship. This can often be well-received and your crush is likely to be enthusiastic about accepting your invitation.
3. Don't Get Stuck Behind Your Phone Screen
If you want to move your relationship beyond texting and into the real world, it's important to take the initiative and reach out by phone. As dating and relationship expert, James Preece suggests, "Once you've had some interest from your texts, don't be afraid to actually call them. So many people are scared to speak but it's the very best thing you can do to stand out and make them interested."
4. Be Confident
As a catch with a lot to offer, it's important to remember your worth and approach your texts with confidence. "What you send them isn't really as important as the way you send it," Preece explains. "Be bold, confident, and positive, and never complain. If he doesn't reply immediately then you know he's just busy and that he'll reply soon enough. Back yourself."