Relationships can be tough and demand a consistent level of effort and upkeep to work properly. This is truer for people who have either struggled in relationships in the past or are new to the dating landscape. And when you consider people with manipulative traits or those who display signs of insecurity, the idea of a successful relationship in today's time seems rarer than finding gold on your street corner.
It is also widely noted that the current generation of people finds dating to be much more difficult than their peers from yesteryear. This Pew study indicates that an increase in physical and emotional risk is the most commonly cited reason why dating has gotten harder. Others point to the rapid advances made in technology that have made dating easier. Either way, the jury is still out. But one thing is for sure, the rise in popularity of dating apps has made infidelity and cheating commonplace among relationships.
The Problem with Dating Apps
Dating apps are a lot like Netflix. You spend more time thinking about the hundreds of options out there and less on finding something you like and sticking to it. Tinder and other dating apps like it are ushering in a new, dystopian romantic landscape in which sex is the result of an algorithm. The downside to this is that meaningful relationships are seldom formed.
Hookup culture can solely be credited for its popularity due to the ease of using dating apps and websites. One could even refer to this trend as "Big Dating," much like Big Pharma in the sense that dating apps would rather feed you a stream of profiles than have you introspect on what's wrong with you.
Tinder's main issue is that while it is technically a dating app, it creates a cycle of people being dishonest about what they want to get what they want. This is what has led to the rise in hookup culture and has made dating apps and websites a place to avoid if you're looking for something serious.
The fact of the matter is that most people you know have at some point been on a dating app. Studies show that 75% of young adults between the ages of 18 and 24 use Tinder. This varies across generations, too and the way people use these dating apps is apparent in the dating norms of their generations. The biggest problem with Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, and similar apps is that it makes us treat everybody as disposable. A survey of over 1200 women by the Columbia Journalism Investigations found that more than a third of them were sexually assaulted or raped by someone they had encountered through a dating site.
Another study interviewed 500 U.S dating app users and found that 60% of them wanted something serious. Due to the abundance of people on the apps that don't want a serious relationship, the chances of these people meeting like-minded individuals becomes incredibly low. The other big problem with dating apps is how effortlessly they allow cheating and infidelity to happen.
In a study by YouGov Omnibus, it was found that 7% of people who have ever signed up to a dating app or website used them to cheat on a significant other. And that's not all. One in six (17%) current users of various dating apps say that this is one of their reasons for using them.
Is Your Partner Cheating on You With a Dating App?
Life would be a lot simpler if we could just monitor tinder activity remotely whenever we could. But not every couple has established boundaries when it comes to prying on each other's phones. Today, it's also taboo to ask for your partner's social media information just to keep a check on their online activity. So, what can you do realistically if you suspect your partner is cheating on you on a dating app?
Ask them about their online activity
Before you jump to conclusions or have other heavy-handed approaches, it's always best to hash out any problems or grievances amongst each other. Most problems can be resolved by talking them out. Communication should always be the priority amongst couples and knowing that your first approach should be to ask them about their online activity and discuss any insecurities or concerns you may have.
Use their phone when they're away
This is always a risky approach to handle the situation. Not only does it put you in a position where you have to be sneaky behind their back, but also violates their privacy too. Not to mention if your partner found out that you were spying on their phone, it can cause irreparable trust issues between the two. If you do plan to go in this direction, be sure to check their phone when they least expect it. After they've slept or are in the shower is the perfect time to snoop around their phone. And if you don't have their passcode, you could always ask to text someone from their phone showing that yours isn't functioning or has a dead battery.
Using monitoring apps
Phone monitoring apps have come a long way since their inception and have a feature set that allows users to view every last bit of information on someone's phone. Apps like Xnspy, Flexispy, and TheTruthSpy are some of the more popular choices available to users today. All of these have great features that allow you to monitor tinder activity with ease remotely but our pick would be Xnspy.
Using Xnspy to Monitor Tinder Messages
The first step to monitor tinder activity remotely on a target phone is to install Xnspy on the device first. It is not possible to install apps remotely on any device so physical access would be required in this case. Once you select the desired plan, you are provided with the portal to the web account along with the credentials you need to log in to it. Once the app is installed, wait for 24 to 48 hours before you start monitoring. This is required so Xnspy can backup the target phone's data to its secure servers. Once the backup time has elapsed, you can begin to track Tinder messages using this easy step-by-step guide.
Step 1: Visit the Xnspy login portal and enter your credentials.
The link to the portal is https://cp.xnspy.com/ and here, you will be required to login to the dashboard where all the backed-up information is available.
Step 2: Once inside the dashboard, choose "Messenger" from the panel on the left and a drop-down list will open up.
Next, select "Tinder" from the drop-down list and you will be provided with all the recent Tinder Messages logs.
This panel will allow you to see all the names of the Tinder accounts your significant other has been in touch with and the conversations they have had. You can view the messages that were sent and received from these accounts by clicking on the user names. Xnspy also shows the time and date stamps of these conversations.
You can also use Xnspy to monitor other social networking apps. To learn more about it, you can read this article.