Breakups suck. Therefore, after ending a relationship, you’re certain to feel down in the dumps, gloomy, and disengaged. But hey, that's life.
After a breakup, your energy is probably low, and every happy couple you see is annoying. Consequently, it’s impossible not to feel like there’s something wrong with you. Not to mention you feel unattractive regardless of your actual physical appearance. In other words, you lose your mojo.
A relationship split will rob off your mojo so quickly you won't know what hit you. Here are 6 -tips to help you out of a funk and get your mojo back after a breakup:
1. Get Busy
Staying busy keeps you distracted such that you lack time to fixate on the negative.
Firstly, try to get out of the house more. For instance, take a walk around the neighborhood, hang out in the park, plan lunch dates with your friends, or go shopping with your mom.
Secondly, take a trip if you can. Trips keep you engaged and distracted with whole new adventures and experiences as you indulge in new activities.
Other soothing activities include going on nature trails or basking in the sun. Nature has a calming effect that lightens one's mood, thus makes you feel better. Importantly, a brief moment out in the sun is enough to brighten up your day.
2. Avoid Triggers
Of course, you'll have moments of weakness where you'll want to reach out and probably get back with your ex.
Above all, post-breakups of long-term relationships are hard since there’s a lot of time and energy invested in the relationship. Therefore, letting go and moving on is a bit tougher.
Vulnerability and setbacks are inevitable. However, you can avoid things or places that trigger you. For example, sweatshirts, gifts, bars, restaurants, or a favorite chill spot. Instead, rummage through your stuff and give items that are a sad reminder of your ex to charity. Also, try new things, go to new places.
Exploring new places also limits the chances of running into your ex!
3. Practice Gratitude
When you're down in the dumps, your brain exaggerates the bad in your life. Meanwhile, you become overly stressed and you can’t help but think that your life sucks and you don’t measure up.
Firstly, practice gratitude. Be grateful for everything, whether it's those shoes that you've had for years, your camera, your parents, siblings, or friends. I mean, everything is worth being grateful for regardless of how small.
Secondly, take mental notes or write a gratitude list.
Appreciating what you have and being grateful for how far you’ve come eliminates the feelings of lack and self-inadequacy. Besides, it makes you happier and much more hopeful.
4. Try New Things
With the extra time on your hands, now is the best time to pick a hobby. Do you love adventure? Why don't you try out that popular hiking trail? What about scuba diving?
Bike riding on a Saturday seems fun, right?
Moreover, you can volunteer in community centers such as homeless shelters or your local veterinary center.
You can also take up an old hobby. Remember when you used to paint? Oh, and the pastries you used to make on Sunday evenings? I bet you miss doing all those things.
Doing what you love and what makes you happy, guarantees your self-confidence and mojo. Trust.
5. Set Goals
When you’re in a relationship, you get so used to doing everything together that your whole world comes crumbling down when it all ends. Consequently, you lose sight of your priorities, goals, and who you are.
Firstly, set goals. Start by setting small goals, from as simple as waking up at 6 a.m. sharp, having a 20-minute workout before work, or reading at least 2-3 pages of a book each day. Having a goal gives you a sense of direction.
Secondly, celebrate each win regardless of how small. For instance, you've managed to run 2 miles a day for an entire week. That’s a win. Celebrate it. This encourages you to take on other challenging goals.
6. Practice Self-care
After a breakup, it's normal to feel alone. But you're not. You've got you, and that's enough.
Visit a spa if you can and have a massage. Pamper yourself to a manicure, pedicure and maybe a facial.
If you don't feel like getting out of the house, draw a bath or take a long hot shower. Afterward, binge watch some NetFlix movies or watch your favorite comedy and relax.
I guarantee you’ll be smiling so hard your cheeks will ache.
Self-care isn't selfish. It's just self-love. Therefore, it's only right to take a dose of self-care regularly. You deserve it!
Lastly, practice love. Love yourself, love, who you are, and who you're about to become. Love your family and everyone around you. Also, refrain from hating your ex. Fueling hate will only make you bitter and sad. And we don't want that, do we?
Breakups can steal your mojo lickety-split. Get your happiness, enthusiasm, and not to mention self-confidence back sis.