For most dads, a daughter's wedding day is one of the most important moments of his life. If his little girl is happy, then he is just as happy, if not happier.
On a wedding day, a father finally accepts that his daughter has grown up. This day is a huge deal, and even if serious family differences existed before, they are often set aside to make sure the day is a success.
The Disappointed Stepdad
A stepdaughter seriously hurt her stepdad as she was planning her wedding. The girl was his girlfriend's daughter.
Traditionally, dads give away their daughters as they are getting married.
This custom is so important that another worthy male, such as a brother, a grandpa, or a stepdad, usually steps in if the dad is not around.
A Hurt Stepdad Presents His Case
The frustrated stepdad took to Reddit to explain the pain his stepdaughter, who was about to get married, put him through.
His stepdaughter's biological dad is hardly ever around. In fact, he does not even pay any child support and can hardly be counted on for anything.
But after spending thousands of dollars on his stepdaughter's wedding, she did him a lot of injustice by pushing him aside:
"The wedding planning has consumed most of her and her mother's life (I say her mother because we aren't married, though we've lived together for 10 years) for the past six months."
"My stepdaughter graduated last December from the university. I paid for her to go to college; though it was a state school, it still ran $40K. She does not have a job and has been living with us for the duration of her college career and since her graduation. I also bought her a car to get back and forth from school when she finished high school."
The Deadbeat Dad
Then stepdad went on to recall with bitterness what life has been like living with his girlfriend and her daughter (his stepdaughter).
In particular, he recalls how he had wholeheartedly played the role of dad because the girl's biological father had completely dropped the ball:
"From time to time, her deadbeat father would pop into her life, and she would fawn all over him. Although he has not contributed a cent to her education or paid any child support, though that is my girlfriend's fault as c.s. was not part of the settlement, she still loves him and wants him in her life. He stays long enough to break her heart by skipping town and breaking some promise that he made her."
The man went on to explain that the "real dad" insists he loves his daughter and would do anything for her. Unfortunately, he was not ready to pay the $50k his daughter required to get her dream wedding.
But this stepdad was more than ready to make the girl's dream wedding come true.
The Wedding Guests Disappointment
The generous and supportive stepdad was willing to foot the cost of the wedding since the girl's biological father wouldn't. But in return, he had a few humble requests.
Unfortunately, he was met with shock when he made these requests of his girlfriend and her daughter:
"The wedding venue holds 250 people max. I gave them a list of 20 people that I wanted invited, you know since I was paying for everything. They told me that was no problem and they'd take care of it. So I let these people know they'd be getting an invite and they should save the date."
"Saturday, I saw one of my friends on this list at the golf course and asked if he was coming. He told me that he wasn't invited. He told me that he got an announcement, but not an invitation. He had it in his back seat (along with probably six months of mail) and showed it to me. Sure enough, it was just an announcement, and my name was nowhere on it. It had her dad's name and her mom's name and not mine."
Were it not for this accidental encounter, the poor guy would not have known what was going on behind his back.
When the man realized how insignificant he was to the lives of his girlfriend and her daughter, he was deeply hurt. On the bright side, he was lucky to learn the truth about the ungrateful mother-daughter duo early enough.
When he later brought up the issue, his worst fears were confirmed: he got into a serious fight with the girlfriend. Apparently, none of his 20 names made the cut.
As it was explained to him by his girlfriend, "250 people is very tight." But he was promised that if any of the people on their list failed to RSVP, then a few of his friends might stand a chance.
Understandably, he was really pissed to hear this.
The Shocking Dinner With In-Laws
However, the worst was still to come. During a Sunday dinner with future in-laws, the "real dad" showed up as a surprise guest.
It was also announced that he would be walking the girl down the aisle and giving her away. Everyone cheered after the announcement.
After everything her stepdad did for her, the least the stepdaughter could have done is let the two dads walk her down the aisle. But that was clearly not her plan.
The Reddit user was almost boiling with anger:
"I don't think I have ever felt so angry and so disrespected. I was shaking."
The man continued to write:
"Once I was sure I'd be able to speak I got up from my chair and said I'd like to make a toast."
In a nutshell, here's what he had to tell the excited dinner guests:
"It has been my great pleasure to be a part of this family for the past ten years."
"At this point in my life, I feel I owe a debt of gratitude to the bride and groom because they have opened my eyes to something very important."
Obviously, the dinner guests smiled, expecting nothing but good news. Then he said this:
"They have shown me that my position in this family is not what I once thought it was."
At this point, there was a lot of tension in the room. Then he continued:
"Though I once thought of myself as the patriarch or godfather of the family, commanding great respect and sought out for help in times of need, it seems instead that I hold the position of an ATM, good for a stream of money, but not much else. As I have been replaced as host, both on the invitations and in the ceremony, I am resigning my financial duties as host to my successor, Real Dad. So cheers to the happy couple and the path they have chosen. You all can let yourselves out."
If that wasn't savage, then I don't know what is.
The Girlfriend And Her Daughter Moved Out
Afterward, the bride and the girlfriend moved in with the groom. When the man put up his story on the web, he got a lot of support for his decision.
He also mentioned that the girl and her mother were starting to "scale things back" and trying to get the groom's parents to chip in.
Luckily for him, he had already moved the money from their joint account. The girlfriend had attempted to write herself a check.
Do you think the man made the right call?
Clearly, he made the right decision when he decided to distance himself from a family that was more than willing to exploit him financially while also treating him like a total stranger. He was clearly nothing more than an ATM to these folks.