Low self-worth can be insidious. One moment, you might feel self-assured and capable, but the next, you may not realize that you're constantly belittling yourself and convincing yourself that you're unworthy of good things in life. If any of these 12 signs resonate with you, it's an indication that you're struggling with low self-worth and could benefit from making some changes.
1. You don't speak up
If you find yourself hesitant to voice your opinions, criticisms, or emotions, then there's a significant issue at hand. It could be a sign that you're struggling with low self-esteem that requires attention, or perhaps you're in a relationship with someone who denigrates you for having your own thoughts and feelings. This should be viewed as a red flag.
2. You've become a people pleaser
It's possible that you're unaware that by saying "yes" and "no problem" to every request, you're not simply being considerate; you're actually becoming a pushover. Here's a definitive way to discern if this is the case: you hold such a low opinion of yourself that you're willing to put your own needs and well-being aside for the sake of others.
3. You've erased your boundaries
Healthy relationships require boundaries. Without them, you risk being mistreated and exploited. If you've disregarded or never established your boundaries, you're not recognizing your own worth. A woman who values herself will create specific limits around her, and if someone violates them, she won't permit them into her heart or life. This is about self-protection.
4. You've downgraded in the boyfriend department
Assess the men you've recently dated. If they're all toxic, abusive, or fall short of your usual standards in some other way, then you've lowered your dating standards. The question is, why? Do you believe that you're unable to attract a fantastic guy who will treat you with respect? Consider what you have to bring to the table! Refute your pessimistic self-talk.
5. You don't Have your own goals
Previously, you had aspirations and ambitions that motivated you, but now that you're in a relationship, you're primarily concentrating on your partner's aspirations. Although it's beneficial to have some shared goals to strive for as a couple, you should not disregard your own sense of self in the process.
6. You feel like your partner is smarter than you
Feeling that your partner is more intelligent than you can make you hesitant to express yourself, but this is illogical. Intelligence comes in various forms, and everyone possesses different types of cleverness. If you undervalue yourself, you're essentially stating, "I'm insufficient in every way."
7. You don't do what makes you happy
Ask yourself, when was the last time you did something that filled you with great joy? It doesn't have to be something significant, just as simple as grabbing coffee alone, watching the sunrise on a beach, spending time with your best buddies, or reading a good book. If you're not giving yourself the time to experience what brings you joy, it's a sign that you don't appreciate what's crucial to you. You're setting your happiness aside, but why?
8. It's all about what your partner wants to do
If you constantly prioritize your partner's desires over your own, like opting to watch soccer instead of going horse riding, it can result in bitterness and a loss of self-esteem. Over time, you'll begin to believe that his needs, no matter how insignificant, hold more significance than yours. Don't brush it off when you pick his preferences once again.
9. You're always surprised when something good happens to you
When the universe presents you with a stroke of good luck, you might feel surprised and question, "Is it really for me?" You may even feel anxious and stressed, almost as if you're unworthy of success. However, don't underestimate yourself. You deserve all the fantastic things that life has to offer.
10. You can't do anything without asking what your partner thinks
If you find yourself hesitating to make decisions like investing money, pursuing further studies, or getting a new haircut without consulting your partner, it could be a red flag. While it's reasonable to seek objective feedback and share your plans with your loved one, it becomes a concern if you let them dictate your actions. Have faith in yourself and trust your instincts more.
11. You don't take timeouts
Have you recently taken some time to tune in to your thoughts and feelings? Neglecting this can result in believing the negative self-talk (i.e., junk) in your mind without conscious awareness. To combat this, consider wearing an elastic band around your wrist and snapping it every time you catch yourself having a negative thought about yourself. You might be surprised at how frequently this occurs! With increased awareness, you can then challenge these negative thoughts.