Being in love is like getting a new toy. You are still discovering each other and enjoying every moment of togetherness. But staying in love in your marriage is a different story and a difficult one.
After a few years, “till death do us part” can feel like a pretty long time to keep up with! There is nothing to feel guilty about since many of us struggle to keep the spark alive. After a few years of marriage, the couples start living like roommates (or even inmates!) rather than partners.
Bringing back the happy times with these Mantras
If you feel that the love is flaming out and is starting to gather dust, there is always hope. Some ideas to rekindle the romance in your married life have been encapsulated here to help you get that passion back in your love life.
Schedule a date night
As we get involved in our work and daily chores, we tend to forget how romantic evenings together felt like. During the dating days, we dressed to impress and always put our best foot forward. Unfortunately, as we got to know each other, we no longer try to make an effort to look or behave our best.
It is great to plan a date night or maybe just a coffee evening with your partner and fall in love with each other all over again. It doesn’t have to burn a hole in your pocket, but the idea is to spend time together and look and feel our best.
Pamper your partner
A foot massage or a head massage, or just a tender back massage helps you reignite the intimacy that gets lost in married life.
Rejuvenate the intimacy
According to the experts, the main reason why love starts to fade away is due to a lack of sexual intimacy. At the beginning of the courtship, there is the excitement of falling in love, and you are still discovering each other. Even a touch can make you feel euphoric during the initial stages and gets you quickly turned on. But as time progresses, this starts to fade.
Begin by just holding hands while watching TV. A peck on the cheek when you come back home from work can go a long way in reigniting the sexual chemistry in your relationship. It’s a great idea to experiment with different ways of bringing pleasure to your partner.
Surprise each other
It may sound odd, but gifts always work, especially when your partner gets it from you as a surprise. For a woman, a gift of diamonds has an image of purity and light. They are given as a pledge of love and worn as a symbol of commitment.
As the saying goes, “Diamonds are a girl’s best friend,” and a diamond pendant or necklace will go a long way in reigniting that lost passion for each other.
Say it with an affectionate touch
Holding hands, hugging each other and a light, tender touch in any form is a great way to affirm your love for your better half. It sets the stage for great sexual intimacy, crucial for a happy married life.
Carve out time to spend with your partner
Quality time spent together with each other daily helps you understand your partner’s psychological well-being too. Playing your favorite game together or any activity you both enjoy together can help rebuild that lost intimacy you crave with your life partner.
Strengthen emotional intimacy
It strengthens a bond when you tell each other your intimate secrets. It not only keeps the trust alive but rekindles the emotional intimacy too. So, keep them coming for an excellent long-term strong relationship.
Stop talking about kids all the time
After having children, most of our time and energy is spent caring and talking about them. Sexual arousal plummets when we’re distracted and stressed.
Taking time out mentally and not talking about kids in all your conversations will not make you a bad mother or a father. Do not forget that you are “YOU” apart from being a mom or a dad. It’s good to take that hat off for a while and talk to each other and about each other rather than kids.
There is no better way than enticing each other with intimate dance moves. When you are close to each other, you can arouse the feeling of excitement and passion.
Show that you care
Small gestures like giving a helping hand with the dishes, ironing each other’s clothes, or even a tiny thing like offering each other a glass of water can go a long way in saying that you care. “In sickness and in health” care for each other to keep that spark alive.
We all are individuals. Even if you are not a touchy-feely person, enhancing your physical closeness and emotional accord can help you achieve a deep bond with your partner.
Enjoy courting and practice flirting as a way to ignite sexual desire and intimacy. There is no bigger joy in a happy married life than growing old together and keeping that flame alive physically as well as emotionally “until death do us part”.