Happy, Goal-Oriented, Smart, Chaotic, Or Creative? How Sitting Positions Affect Your Personality And Mood
Published in Jul 2020 / Updated in Aug 2021
Science confirms that most human communication happens nonverbally, which goes to show just how overrated words are. As it turns out, your sitting position - particularly the way you position your legs - can say plenty about your personality or mood.
Just for the record, we are also talking about sitting positions on the floor, but will also focus on your posture when sitting on a regular chair. The way you sit can depend on your surroundings, mood, and even personality. That’s what we’ll look into today.
So, you can think of this as a personality test. The different types of sitting positions we'll discuss can help you understand yourself better and even help you change your life for the better.
How are you sitting right now?
Is it the way you normally sit or is it the product of your current mood? Let's find out what this posture means.
1. Cross-Legged Sitting – Open, Welcoming, Or Insecure?
If you are sitting with your legs crossed on the floor, then you feel open and welcoming to new ideas.
But sitting on a chair with your legs crossed is a different story altogether.
For starters, according to health experts, it's very unhealthy. And as far as body language experts go, crossing your legs while sitting on a chair also means you are feeling insecure. Even more mysterious is the fact that crossed legs can also mean you are sitting close to someone you find attractive.
Some people also ask: is sitting cross-legged disrespectful? Honestly, that depends on how the person you are sitting close to feels about it.
2. Sitting With Hands Clasped - Polite
Unfortunately, this is a people-pleaser pose. It can also mean you are trying to be polite, probably a little too hard.
People who normally sit like this also tend to be fun and cheerful, usually bringing joy to other people’s lives through humor.
3. Crossed Ankles – Down To Earth, Comfortable, Well-Mannered
As far as the body language of sitting goes, there is a world of difference between cross-legged sitting and sitting with your ankles crossed.
Crossing your ankles shows you are down to earth and well behaved. This is also a relaxed pose, and it shows you don’t have anything to hide. This sitting posture also helps put those around you at ease, and it’s a power pose that demonstrates you are in control.
4. Sitting With Hands Wedged Between The Legs – Humble, Supportive, Shy
Putting your hands between your legs shows humility, sensitivity, and probably shyness. This pose can also show some level of self-doubt, but mostly, it proves you are a good-natured and gentle person.
5. Sitting With Arms On The Armrests – Sensitive, Feeling Vulnerable
There are two possible reasons you like to sit with your arms on the armrests. First of all, it can mean you are a sensitive and yet grounded person.
Alternatively, this can be a sign you are feeling a bit vulnerable physically or mentally, and are doing it to steady yourself.
6. Sitting Arms Crossed – Defensive, Upset
Many people know this one. People who sit with their arms crossed tend to be defensive or angry.
Crossed arms act like a symbolic barrier, which means people who feel threatened tend to assume this pose.
7. Sitting Upright – Confident, Happy
Sitting upright means you are happy, and it is also the right posture to use if you want to keep your back healthy.
In fact, people who sit in this way are more likely to have a healthier lifestyle. Think about it: it's highly unlikely to find someone who works out and takes good care of their health slouching on a chair.
Otherwise, sitting upright demonstrates control and an ability to help and rescue people.
8. Sitting With Hands On The Knees - Confident
This is a pretty powerful pose, and it shows you are not shy, absent-minded, or scared of responsibility. If you typically assume this pose, then you are not one to run away from fights.
9. Sitting While Leaning Back –Analytical, Judgmental
As casual as this posture might seem, it says a lot. Although it shows you can be sensitive, this pose is also a sign you are good at analyzing people and emotions.
Leaning back as you sit also demonstrates sensitivity and a willingness to consider all the options before making a decision. The pose is also considered judgmental.
10. Sitting While Leaning Forward - Curious
This is a pose for the curious. That’s why you will see many people who lean forward are interested and asking questions to learn more about the person they are talking to.
In this posture, you are also likely to get carried away and make the wrong judgment calls since you are so eager.
11. Sitting With Legs Together –Perfectionist, Direct
If you always keep your legs together when sitting, then it’s probably because you are a perfectionist. Although people might find you a bit strict, you are actually also a kind person, but a perfectionist nonetheless.
You also like getting directly to the point.
12. Knees Apart And Feet Together –Demanding, Easily Distracted, Willing To Serve Others
In this pose, a person is willing to give up their interests for the sake of others. This pose also shows you can be very demanding, and also easily distracted.
Fortunately, you also have a good heart and can be very patient in relationships.
13. Legs Together But Leaning To One Side – Ambitious, Stubborn, Or Flirtatious
If you often have this posture, you are stubborn, ambitious, and chase hard after your goals. You plan out your future carefully, observe everything diligently, analyze the surroundings, and react strongly to people who make you uncomfortable.
Women also use this posture to be flirtatious, unless it’s done purely for comfort.
14. Sitting With Your Wrists Crossed - Insecure
Hiding your wrists is a sign you are feeling insecure and trying to hide something. When confident, you will often not mind that others can see your wrists.
To sum up, the way you sit can say a lot about your personality. These are just some common sitting positions and what they mean about you according to body language experts.