A dad was furious after hearing that his daughter had bullied a classmate who had cancer. The girl had not just bullied her fellow student. She had also pulled her wig.
The insensitivity and lack of empathy shocked and infuriated the girl's father. Consequently, he felt that something had to be done.
The dad chose to teach his daughter an important lesson in compassion through a tough lesson that has left many Redditors and family members complaining.
Parenting is not always easy, and tough decisions have to be made constantly. Parents also have to work hard to bring up their kids right, but that is often easier said than done.
The truth, however, is that kids are pretty independent, and they have their own way of seeing things. So, teaching them the difference between good and bad is not always possible, and things only get harder as they age.
The Dad Has Since Deleted His Post
The dad has since deleted the post he put up on Reddit. He shared some of the steps he took after his girl did things that angered him so much in the post.
He explained that he had full custody of his 16-year-old daughter.
He also became aware that she had bullied someone in class. The victim turned out to be a cancer patient.
His daughter had mocked the sick girl for her baldness after snatching her wig.
The dad gave his daughter two options. He could throw away her electronics and never expect him to buy her anything ever again or have her head shaved just like the girl she victimized.
According to many people, the dad had gone overboard, with the girl's mom going ballistic over his reaction. Nevertheless, he defended himself, saying he did it because it was so disgusting that his daughter showed no empathy.
He also agreed that he might have gone a little too far because he lost his mom to cancer in his 20s. All he wanted was for his daughter to walk a mile in the girl's shoes.
That is why she had to go to school without a wig until her hair grew back.
In his opinion, he was not the jerk in the situation because all he wanted was for his daughter to learn a lesson in compassion. He was also a little concerned that he had gone too far, which is why he shared his story on Reddit to see what everyone else thought.
Some People Felt The Dad Went Too Far
One person agreed that the daughter sucks for bullying the girl with cancer but also claimed that the dad had taken things too far.
Another Redditor claimed that his daughter was a bully because he was a bully and suggested that this might not have been the first time he had used abuse and humiliation to "teach" his daughter a lesson.
According to another person, what the dad did was child abuse. This internet user pointed out that taking away her electronics would have been punishment enough and would have been grounding her.
Apparently, going as far as violating her bodily autonomy and causing her to suffer humiliation was a step too far. This person pointed out that, rather than learning from the experience, he might have promoted a cycle of bullying.
Some People Didn't Feel There Was Anything Wrong With The Punishment
Even as other people thought the father should not have done as he had done, some people felt the dramatic reaction was wholly justified.
According to one of the internet users who held this opinion, the impact of this father's reaction would help her realize the kind of impact her actions had on the cancer victim she bullied.
Another supportive person said they fully supported the father's decision. To them, this was not abuse but real life.
Apparently, if the girl is comfortable doing such a horrible thing to someone else, she should also experience what her victim went through.
To this person, kids don't understand compassion as much as parents want them to. The commenter didn't feel like a chat on the importance of empathy would have helped in this scenario.
They went on to add that the punishment was not cruel or abusive because hair grows back, which might not be the case with the person she bullied.
The person went on to say that the lesson would help someone else be more compassionate before bullying someone else.
Even With The Criticism, The Dad Has Not Changed His Stand On The Matter
As far as the dad was concerned, the criticism he was getting would not change what he thought of his reaction. He still insisted that he made the right decision.
The fact that people don't necessarily agree with his methods does not mean he was going to change his mind:
"As far as the backlash, I'll be honest and say it hasn't changed my opinion. Most of the comments called it abuse. I really can't take that seriously, it's just a haircut and her hair will grow back."
Although he realized he was in the minority as far as the issue was concerned, he was still sticking to his opinion. Nevertheless, he admitted that he did not expect to anger so many people.
Luckily, he said he could not complain about the judgment he was getting from other people since the whole point of the subreddit is to "judge other people."
The Daughter Is Yet To Show Any Remorse Or Offer An Apology
The dad gave an update on his daughter, saying that she was "understandably upset" with him and was still not showing any remorse for her actions or offering an apology.
He admits that if she shows remorse for her actions, he can get her a temporary wig, but that is yet to happen.