The common saying or notion is that love comes in "black and white", no gray areas. What this means is that the feelings and emotions are supposed to be clear. However, many people seem to doubt this ideology. They feel that they may be giving their all but their other half isn't reciprocating in equal measure. So why does a person who showed lots of interests suddenly pull back? And what can you do about it?
I fully understand your predicaments. At one time, a person is all over you and can't keep his/her hands off you. He/she constantly shower you with praise, shows you lots of love and affection, and always tells you that you are the best thing to ever happen to him/her. However, in the next moment, the person seems withdrawn, isn't overly excited or bubbly about the relationship, and may even state this categorically.
This happens on and off leaving you a bit confused. "Is the person in for the long haul or is he/she just taking me for a ride?" You normally ask yourself this question.
The truth is that the person may like you but not enough to want to fully commit to you. In fact, he/she may be stringing you along as he/she waits for the next big thing.
The person doesn't want to break up with you and at the same time isn't willing to take things to the next level. This can really leave you confused.
Well, the bitter truth is that such a person doesn't take you seriously. So, rather than having false hopes about him/her or the future, you can stay safe to avoid being hurt.
F*ck anyone who only sees value in you when he/she desires the attention. They are just a mean individual who thinks of you as more of a tool rather than an ornament.
F*ck the person who wants to be around you but isn't willing to show full commitment. The unwillingness to be exclusive with you is proof enough that you are not the "one."
F*ck the one who goes missing for a couple of days after having a good time. He/she never bother to check on you, send a caring and loving text, or even alert you of his/her whereabouts.
F*ck the individual that says how they miss you and would like to be with you, yet they never make the slightest effort. "Words without action are dead" and so is the relationship.
F*ck anyone who tells you in private that you are the best thing to have ever happened to him/her but doesn't want to put a label on the relationship.
The truth of the matter is that it sucks big time to know that the other person doesn't love you as much as you do. However, you shouldn't be too harsh on yourself because it's their fault and not yours.
Yes, you may feel rejected, unworthy, or lose your self-esteem. However, you should know that you can never change someone. The more you try the more painful the process and more hurt you will be.
Don't let your ego affect your happiness. You deserve a person who fully loves you and is willing and ready to fully commit.