One of the biggest things that hold someone back from expressing themselves and how they really feel is trust…it’s not about touch but rather trust and believing in yourself. A huge reason why many people aren’t expressive is because they are uncomfortable about something. Think back to the last person you started dating that you held back from…why was that?
Most people believe that if they begin expressing themselves in their own way, their partner wouldn’t approve or wouldn’t understand.
This may be the one thing that is worrying you. Another explanation could be that you really don’t know how to as you haven’t been an expressive person in the past…so how do you start trusting in your partner?
Letting go of your inhibitions and understanding the person you are with is the first and utmost important thing. You have shared stories with each other and may even have met each others friends and family…from a females perspective that is a HUGE thing…because approval from those we care about the most is something that we hold dear no matter what we say. A girls friends and family are our whole universe and if they don’t like the person they are dating…that can cause HUGE problems.
Take a step back and think about everything you know about your partner, what does it tell you about them? It should be telling you that they are human with opinions, likes and dislikes, loves and hates just like everyone else.
What you need to do is trust that, trust that they are sincere and accept that they are who they are, nothing more and nothing less.
The next thing you need to do is start believing in yourself…easier said than done right?
Start by understanding who you are and why you are in the relationship. What do you want to achieve in life? Are you happy as you are or do you want more? Find yourself by accepting who you are and taking the steps to be the person you want to be. You need to be comfortable in your own skin with all your highs and lows and be confident enough to say this is me, take it or leave it. The best way to do this is to trust and believe in yourself.
When you trust and believe in each other, accepting each other for who they are then it will be much easier for you to be more expressive with your partner because you will just BE… You will trust them, believe in yourself and be open to express how you feel, what you think and share your experiences without the chains of inhibitions. You are the one that holds the key to being expressive and sharing yourself…unlocking the happiness you crave…all you have to do is use the key!