Did you know that being around a narcissist is more likely to cause you anxiety disorder? Reading this statement will certainly make you start to think about your surroundings deeply. Was your parent a narcissist? Is your spouse a narcissist? If a person was, then blame your anxiety problems on them.
As you may already know, the narcissist will be suffering from low self-esteem, or they don’t really love themselves. They may feel inadequate, lack good social skills, or feel like underachievers. However, they don’t want the world to think they are weak. They will use “Projection” as a defense mechanism so as to blanket their shortcomings. They may be proud, arrogant, inconsiderate, and will more-often-than-not find fault in the people around them.
You will constantly be blamed for things you didn’t do, feel belittled, and in the long run, you will lose your self-esteem or even feel depressed. They also may be violent, bullies, or use lots of force to show you that they are in control. All this is just a façade. The individual is for suffering but doesn’t want you to know.
The bitter truth is that while it is the other person who has the disorder, you’ll be the one taking the beating for his/ her flaws. You will start believing you are inadequate because you are constantly told so. You will begin losing your self-confidence because you have many shortcomings (as the narcissist puts it across) or may even feel that the world is against you. This is owing to the narcissist’s appearance of being an achiever or able, yet he is not. But you may not know this.
Exposure to this negative environment slowly allows your body, mind, and soul to start manifesting to what is being said. It’s not strange to find people who are accepting to be in abusive behavior because their partner convinces them that it’s their fault and not his/her (the narcissist). Many feel ashamed of being in a relationship where their partner bullies or beats them but believe that he/she does so as a way of correcting your mistakes.
Over time, you begin feeling worthless; lose self-confidence, all because of believing what the narcissist wants you to believe. You begin suffering from anxiety disorders, depression, and low self-esteem and may even start to isolate yourself.
People suffering from a narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) derive satisfaction from belittling other people. They will criticize you, spread lies, stop you from achieving your goals and ambitions, or even interfere with your relationship.
According to Mayo Clinic, an anxiety disorder can be classified as follows:
You get nervous when exposed to circumstances that make you feel humiliated or trapped. You may suffer from a frenzy, thinking you’ll get caught or feeling inadequate. For instance, you may have gotten accustomed to your spouse being with you all the time, that when they are away, you feel anxious. It’s a combination of both mental and physical weaknesses.
A person becomes fearful or anxious when he/she is about to part ways with someone they are close to. You’ll see children throwing tantrums when about to be separated from their parents or guardians. A narcissist, using the power of manipulation will make you feel secure only with him and not with other people. They will belittle you then give you a shoulder to lean on. Over time, you start believing that they care and value you.
This disorder is usually caused by lacking a drug or substance. When the victim doesn’t have access to the substance or drug, they suffer from frenzy, nervousness, or severe tension. It’s well known that narcissists use drugs to entrap their victims. And once they are addicted, they will have to beg for their daily dose. Their suffering and begging will make the narcissist feel satisfied and in control.
The affected person will have problems communicating in a strange environment. For instance, while at home, a child will be okay, talks well, and are also very energetic. However, once he/she is taken to a different environment, like a school, they may be unable to communicate effectively. This condition interferes with their social skills since they are unable to cope in new environments.
Extreme anxiety disorder can be fatal. The abuser will trap you emotionally, mentally, or even physically, making you feel worthless. You may also become fully dependent on him/her and this gives them the power to do whatever they desire. Unable to escape from the mental entrapment, you’ll be forced to oblige.
The narcissist always uses fear-based psychology to their advantage and not for the victim’s benefit. They will try their best for the afflicted person to remain in this situation so as to feel powerful and in control. However, you, on the other hand, will be dying a slow death (emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and socially.
If you suspect that you are living with a narcissist, you should get out of the situation as fast as possible. Don’t believe anything that the abuser tells you because it’s all lies. The more you are exposed to the situation, the lesser your chances of beating the anxiety disorder.