Take a moment to relax, grab a drink, and let's address your concerns about double-texting a guy you just met. We'll navigate this situation together.
IS IT OKAY TO DOUBLE TEXT A GUY YOU JUST MET?
It all comes down to the context and content of the message. Instead of fixating on strict texting norms, it's crucial to concentrate on the actual communication being conveyed.
If you sent a text with an accidental autocorrect mistake and realize it hours later, it's acceptable to send another text to clarify. Keep in mind, double texting usually refers to sending two messages in succession without a significant time gap between them. In this case, you're clarifying a previous message.
As an example, let's say he inquires about your plans, and you reply with an initial response and then a follow-up for clarity.
Text #1 (1:20 pm): "Just relaxing and grooming my furry friend, the rabbit."
Text #2 (2:30 pm): "Whoops, autocorrect got the best of me. I meant to say I'm grooming my RABBIT, not Rabbi."
It's fine. Here, you made a mistake and took steps to correct it, even though some time has passed since the previous text. Your intention is to clarify, not to seek his attention.
IS DOUBLE TEXTING DESPERATE?
It depends on the content of your text. Double texting to share something sweet or clarify an important point is not problematic. However, if you're sending multiple texts in quick succession solely because the recipient hasn't responded and you're trying to get their attention, then it may come across as intrusive.
Here's an example of a double text that is generally considered acceptable:
Text #1 (10:30 am): "Wishing you a fantastic day!"
Text #2 (1:05 pm): "By the way, if you haven't heard this song yet, it's incredible." (+ link to the song)
This type of double text demonstrates that you're connecting with him and have positive thoughts towards him.
Remember that everyone you encounter has their own set of responsibilities and busy schedules. It's best to limit double texting as much as possible.
DOUBLE TEXTING RULES TO FOLLOW
As previously noted, the rules for texting can vary depending on the context. The following guidelines are meant to be a starting point, but feel free to modify them to fit your specific situation.
Rule 1: Unless You're Correcting a Mistake, Wait for a Response
If you're not fixing a mistake or providing additional information within a brief period, wait for a response from the recipient. It's okay to double-text in situations such as giving directions, making additions to a list, or updating on a situation.
Rule 2: Try Not to Send Texts Longer than His
If the recipient is sending you short messages, don't respond with lengthy responses. This doesn't mean you need to match their word count exactly, but rather maintain a similar level of brevity.
Rule 3: Don't Send Follow-Up Texts Asking Where He Is
Avoid asking why the recipient hasn't responded unless you have a long-standing, committed relationship like being married or living together for over a year. It's understandable to be concerned if your spouse is late for dinner, but continuously texting your new partner and demanding a response is not appropriate.
Rule 4: Wait for Him to Respond Before Sending Another Text
Good manners dictate that you should wait for the recipient to respond before sending another text, regardless of whether they have read your previous message or not. This is similar to the etiquette of waiting for the other person to respond before continuing a conversation.
Respect his time and personal space by giving him room to respond on his own terms. He may be busy with other things or just not in the mood to communicate. By giving him space, you are demonstrating that you respect him.
WHAT DOES IT MEAN IF A GUY DOUBLE TEXTS YOU?
Context is key. It's important to consider the situation before making any decisions.
If your guy sends additional information or a cute gesture, it means he likes you and is trying to make your day better. That's all good.
On the other hand, if your guy is double texting to repeatedly ask why you haven't replied to him, this is a concerning behavior. It suggests that he expects you to be immediately available and respond to him whenever he wants, regardless of your own schedule or responsibilities.
If a guy is double texting to demand why you haven't answered him, it's a red flag. It shows insecurity, neediness, and an expectation for you to always be available. A confident and secure person wouldn't worry if you take some time to reply. If he becomes aggressive or insulting, it's an even bigger warning sign.
Consider the context of the conversation, and then make a decision based on your gut feeling about the exchange. Your intuition can provide valuable insight into what he is trying to communicate.
EXAMPLES OF DOUBLE TEXTING
As previously stated, double texting is considered to occur when a significant amount of time has passed between texts. However, it is acceptable to add additional information to a previous text.
"Sure, the address of my apartment building is 33 Grape Lane." (8 pm)
"Just a heads up, my doorbell is located as the second one from the top." (8:15 pm)
That's acceptable, as long as you don't send any additional messages unless requested by the recipient.
In the event of a serious situation and if the recipient has requested to be kept informed, double texting would be deemed appropriate. For example:
"I'm currently at the hospital with my mom, I'll keep you updated." (4 pm)
"Mom has successfully completed surgery and is now stable. Thank you for your support during this time." (7:42 pm)
Conversely, the following would be considered as inappropriate:
"I'm feeling bored, what are your plans for the day?" (10 am)
"Are you there?" (11 am)
"I see, it looks like you're occupied with something more interesting than responding to me..." (2 pm)
This type of text conveys a sense of neediness and a lack of respect for the recipient's choice not to communicate at the moment.
Avoid doing this.
Ultimately, when it comes to double texting a guy you have just met, moderation is key. It is advisable to avoid double texting and only resort to it in necessary circumstances, as discussed earlier. This demonstrates that you value clear and effective communication while also respecting the recipient's time and attention.
If you receive a "read" response and feel the need to follow up, wait for three days before sending a new message. Then, allow the recipient to take the next step. If they text back and explain their silence, that will provide insight. If you don't hear back after a week, this could indicate their level of interest. If they are interested in you, they will make an effort to stay in contact.
When considering double texting, a useful rule of thumb is to consider whether you would appreciate the same behavior from the recipient. Use your answer to guide your actions.