Crying is an emotional response, not the state of your strength. Not only are you not weak if you're a crier, but you're also more in touch with your feelings and have higher EQ – emotional intelligence.
Since the dawn of time, crying was reserved for weak women or women during PMS. We see it on TV, in the media all the time. However, this is one of the biggest lies, and it doesn't affect people who aren't afraid to cry. It's dangerous for those who are holding back the tears.
If somebody hurts you, it's okay to cry a river, just remember to build a bridge and get over it.
― Taylor Swift
There are various emotional states which make you want to cry. Again, somehow we connected tears to sadness, but people also cry because they are happy, or confused, angry, or frustrated. But how does EQ fit into crying?
Emotional intelligence is a person's capacity to be aware and expose their feelings. Sometimes people do not want to show the vulnerable side of themselves, so they refrain from crying and let things go without showing emotion, and of course, it can work.
However, if the repressed emotions don't come up on the surface, you're bottling them up. And, the more you pretend you're okay, the more you're experiencing that feeling of despair and hopelessness.
Crying isn't solving issues, but it's helpful because you're emptying the tank, sort of speak. You're letting go of emotions in a healthy way, without getting caught up in your feelings. After a good cry, you're tired but relieved.
According to science, tears do take away stress from our bodies. Additionally, they are natural painkillers, which is why we feel like crying when we have a nasty headache or toothache.
There's nothing to support a theory that crying is a sign of a weak character. On the contrary, people who cry are in touch with their emotions, which makes them more powerful.
You probably heard you're weak, or hormonal, not to mention much worse things. And it's depressing that you have to apologize for your tears, not to discuss the shame every man feels if he dares to shed a tear. Holding back is making you a ticking time bomb, but letting go will help you. And crying is a completely non-threatening, healthy way just to release and move on.
Watch a movie that makes you laugh or listen to a song that makes you cry. Embrace your emotions and be proud of what you feel.
― Demi Lovato
It's not uncommon to cry when you hear a song or watch a movie. Again, not a sign of weakness, instead of a sign of an emphatic soul. Songs can make us remember people and places, but they can also make us shed a tear because we find the lyrics to be moving.
Crying is valid and healthy. Don't hide your tears, because you're not doing anything wrong. People who are making fun of you are the ones with a problem.
Tears are part of our nature, and crying is honoring it. Stop being ashamed, afraid of judgments, because you're only keeping the stigma alive. It doesn't matter if you're young or old, male or female, tears are for everyone who has feelings.