Okay so sit down lads, this is going to be a big ol’ wedge of cringe cheese. We’re weeping about our best friends, you see. Settle down and ready yourself to cry on a tasteful throw pillow as we think about our great memories and nostalgic childhood. Ready, set – go!
There are some people that are just gold dust.
You could be walking around the town without your head screwed on and they’d be the first to notice and tell you ‘dude, you look lost’. They have this marvellous habit of finding you. Particularly when you didn’t even realise you were wandering. I know not all those that wander are lost – Lord of the Rings told me as much. But you need those people in your life that notice when you’re moodily staring into space in the cocktail bar. They ask you if you’re okay even when they probably know you’re not but they know you need to hear yourself say the words. ‘I am not okay’.
With best friends, this relationship tentatively starts out by sending each other a few memes with the words ‘best friends’ in it.
It’s an essential stage in the relationship, and your life.
For example, the classic templates include: ‘tag your best friend ….’ Or ‘you know you’re best friends when…’ in comparison with what a mere ‘friend’ may offer. This then is recognised as a gesture of testing the waters of friendship, and double checking that the other person is also on board. There’s nothing more awkward than having an unrequited best friend. You know, when they are your best friend but you aren’t theirs… that hurts, man. Truly. However, this is why we try to read the signals ahead of time while we’re getting to know our friend more intimately anyway. It saves time in the future.
Hopefully, though, in the future you can settle down with your best friend and reflect on all the great memories and nostalgic good times you had when you were younger.
And here we are, thinking about our best friend as you read this article.
It can be platonic, filial or romantic, but we all have a picture in our head of who our special person is. Hold on to that.
Then when you get the heart emojis in response and feel your heart grow six sizes because friendship is truly something that no one should be without. I firmly believe that you can live without a lover or partner. You can’t live without friends. Honestly, you can’t. it’s the moments when you all get tipsy before the club and they slur and ask if you know that you made them cry with the present. As if you didn’t bottle that feeling when you saw the response and indebt it to memory thereafter.
The funny thing is, we don’t even need to have known them all that long, and they certainly don’t need to be your oldest friend to render them your closest friend.
People change and grow up in different directions.
That’s perfectly fine. Indeed, it’s generally when people start to mature and figure out what it is that they actually want or demand in a friendship that allows new, robust friendships to be forged more efficiently than in our pre-pubescent years when we didn’t know which way was up.
Then you come over slouching through the town in your pjs and arrive at their doorbell and give a little tilt of the head and a grimace as you enter the threshold. You sit on the sofa and take the blanket and let her talk at you for a few hours while Gilmore Girls plays on in the background. She is reticent to let you walk home but you decide the air will do you good and you need a bed you recognise.
You realise that she trusts you, and you her.
She trusts you and prays for you. The next few weeks she sticks to you like glue and doesn’t leave you alone in the best way. When you come back from the funeral she scoops you straight to a café to talk it through and clears the day. You realise a month after that that you don’t know what you would have done without her. probably gone home and not come back.
Love that for us.
Go on, give your best friend a call and remind them how much you love ‘em.