I know nobody likes to be called a people-pleaser guys, but the embarrassing truth is that many of us are. There is a reason we should be embarrassed and even concerned that we carry around this tag because pleasing people is apparently very dangerous to your health and well-being.
Being Nice Is Nice, But Being Too Nice Is Bad
If one or two people have already pointed out how nice you are, then things might be getting out of hand. It might be time to make some changes.
Actually, being too nice will even freak people out because it's abnormal. Imagine a guy who greets whoever they meet on the street with a big grin on his face.
It's unsettling. People will think you have mental health issues.
You might try to brush it off as friendliness, but that's BS.
If people are saying, you say "thank you," "please," and "excuse me" too much, believe them.
That can get annoying, and people find it hard to interact with you because it also makes you seem sensitive and easy to offend.
Being Excessively Nice Can Be Bad
Apparently, there is a link between niceness and chronic illness. These chronic illnesses vary from cancer, multiple sclerosis, rheumatoid arthritis, irritable bowel syndrome, and so forth.
Some of the behaviors linked to these diseases are what we universally call "being nice."
This includes putting the needs of others before our own, neglecting ourselves in order to take care of others, and even pretending to be happy when we feel sad.
Nice people don't even acknowledge negative feelings to themselves. They even go a step further and take responsibility for the way other people feel.
Don't Be Afraid To Disappoint Other People
Some people are not nice out of choice, but because they are so afraid to disappoint others. Not only that, but these people also feel responsible for the feelings of others.
For this reason, they will make certain personal choices because they don't want others to feel bad. In this way, they compromise their own well-being and harbor negative emotions that eat them from the inside out.
The Problem Starts Early
Being nice starts as an emotional issue when we are young. Apparently, emotional patterns learned in our childhood stay in our minds even as adults.
Niceness is usually caused by an overwhelming sense of responsibility and self-suppression.
Suppression of anger is particularly harmful, and it should be avoided at all costs. In a British study, it was discovered that breast cancer patients mostly had an issue expressing their anger in a bid to be nice.
In another study, it was discovered that "extremely low anger scores have been noted in numerous studies of patients with cancer."
The problem is that we learn these behaviors, and that makes it harder to let them go. But it's clear: stop being too damn nice, it will kill you with chronic illnesses.