Building Confidence And Avoiding Confidence Killers

Building Confidence And Avoiding Confidence Killers

Confidence sets winners apart from the rest. Building it requires practicing self-love, acceptance, and avoiding confidence killers. If you need to boost your confidence and live a better life, start here.

Confidence, just as any form of self-love, requires practice. One bad experience doesn't define you. One person's opinion of you should not change the way you see yourself. Easier said than done? Not really.


Here's what to avoid and how to deal with situations that aren't healthy for your development:

Other People's Opinions And Approval

Instead of wasting your time trying to get permission from everyone, focus on people that matter. Even then, you need to accept that people will argue, disagree with you, and that's normal.

Stop seeking approval and trust your instincts. Yes, you might fail, but is that the worst thing that could happen?


Accept Failure

Failure should make you more determined to succeed. Don't take it personally, because failure and success are two sides of the same coin.

What if I fall? Oh, but my darling, what if you fly?

Erin Hanson

Allow yourself to fail. The more times you rise, the stronger you'll get.

Concur Your Fears

Doing things that scare you is a perfect way to get out of your way. Fears kill dreams, but you can overcome any fear. Meditate, visualize, then do whatever it is that scares you.


To avoid feeling overwhelmed, concur with your fears in stages. If it still feels like it's too much, ask for help from someone you trust.

""Why Not Me?"" Mentality

Every situation, no matter how bad it seems, is a challenge and a chance for you to grow. Don't ask: ""Why me?"" Ask yourself: ""Why not me?""

This small shift in thinking is what will spark your creativity and make you a problem solver, not a problem maker.


Learn To Listen

People who talk too much without saying anything are usually insecure. Instead, try listening.

You can learn a lot just by listening and watching people. It doesn't mean that you should always keep your mouth shut, but you don't have to be in the center of every conversation.

No Drama, No Problem

Staying out of other people's dramas is reasonably easy. All you have to do is mind your business.


The real challenge is not to create drama. Wake up curiosity, thirst for knowledge, to replace the void you used to fill with over-dramatic situations.

Challenge yourself daily, and don't forget to enjoy every moment. Learn to be comfortable with being uncomfortable, and you'll soon realize that no dream is too big.

Remember that building confidence lasts a lifetime. The more you achieve, the bigger the challenges you'll face. But, once you adopt the winner's mentality, everything will be easier.